In the last few years as I have walked with the Lord and entered into adulthood, there has been a question burning on my mind and in my heart, something that I have desired greatly to know, have, and walk out for the rest of my life. That question is “what does it really mean to be a man?” I do not think it is great actions or achievements, nor an age you reach as I have known boys of twelve or thirteen years who have been more a man than some who are in their fifth or sixth decade. I believe God has revealed and continues to reveal to me that it is the identity He has placed on you that you choose to walk in and that the character of a true man comes from the knowledge of this identity.  While my observations and list are probably not complete, here are what I have learned the signs of real manhood to be and while I know I fall short of these at times, it is the ardent desire of my heart to live these things all of my days.
 
A Man…

Is strong but not harsh

Uses his strength to protect others, and not to gain for himself

Deals with others in kindness and without selfish motive

Will risk himself so that others don’t have to

Looks for opportunity to serve those around him without seeking praise for it

Does not base his love and honor for those around him on their behavior or performance

Is ready to defend those weaker than he at all times

Honors the commitments he makes in spite of hardship on himself

Holds to the truth he knows, but is not determined to be right just to be right

Can admit when he errs

Knows that asking for help is a sign of strength, and not weakness

Submits to the authority that is over him

Seeks wisdom and accepts council from those around him who are wiser and more experienced than he

Uses his skills and talents to benefit and bless others, and not to gain acclaim for himself

Shares his knowledge when it will benefit others, but does not look for praise in doing so

Takes care of what he has (including himself) as a steward, ready to give it away to bless or help others

Does not seek out conflict, but is ready for and not afraid of it when it is necessary

Does not take foolish risks, but is willing to face danger for the betterment of his loved one’s

When necessary can face danger in spite of his own fear