So, I guess I should explain what it means to deliver mail! Well…it basically means that when there is something you feel that is going on between you and someone else (or multiple people), you need to confront them and bring those issues into the light. Now, for people like me (who hate and avoid confrontation), it will be one of the hardest things you will have to do. But believe me when I say that it needs to be done. I’m still far from delivering mail on time (not quite as reliable as those awesome postmen that go out even through the toughest of seasonal weather), but trust me when I say it’s getting better. I’m still going through a lot of other issues that I didn’t even know I still held on to…and God is working on me with that. I am slowly learning how to be more vulnerable and transparent for the sake of my team, my family.
So…yes! Delivering mail sucks! But, if you hold on to it and you don’t deliver, Satan is going to jump all over it! He’s just waiting to use the littlest of things to turn it into something huge…something that can ultimately destroy….destroy what unity that has already been built and security you feel like you have in your family! So…don’t let him win! Don’t let him even have a chance to creep into your family! But, one of the amazing things about God, is that He is GOOD! And He can turn things that seem hopeless into something amazingly wonderful! Just give it over to Him and don’t dwell on it!
So…here are some tips for those of you who are like me and need to deliver mail:
1) Pray and give it all over to God!
2) Get over yourself!
3) Remember that not everyone is like you (some people would prefer it if you would tell them (or confront them) right at that moment.
4) Everyone has a different perspective on what happened….it doesn’t mean you are any more right than the other person!
5) Confrontation is only as scary as you make it out to be.
6) It’s okay to cry (as much as you want).
7) After delivering mail, pray with that person…and most importantly, PRAY FOR that person…ask God to bless them….pray for your relationship with them…always end with prayer!
8) Don’t feel ashamed about what you said…that is how you felt!
9) Go and worship God-this is important b/c Satan is still trying to attack you in many ways and he will try to sneak some lies in there!
10) Don’t quit…it’s not worth it…you asked for this…you asked God to change you…you begged Him…so, that’s what is happening….He’s changing you!
And here are some tips for those of you who are not like me and mail is delivered to you from someone like me:
1) Sorry that it wasn’t delivered earlier!
2) Know that that person is trying-they are completely out of their comfort zone!
3) They are scared to death of confronting you!
4) It is not the intention of that person to make you feel worse or guilty or throw too much on you at one time…it just happens!
5) Pray for grace for that person!-as much as you would rather them confront you right away…they would rather have not even brought it up…so, remember that they are just as uncomfortable and upset as you are!
6) You may think that you are more in the right than they are….you’re not!
7) If you get really defensive towards them…they are just going to feel worse about delivering mail and could make them question the process of delivering mail…they may never want to do it ever again! So…please don’t try to make them feel guilty for not delivering mail earlier!
8) Try to hear that person out completely and remember that God is working on them and is changing them….just be patient!
9) Pray with that person….pray for them…and let them pray for you!
10) Spend some time with God!
This is just from my perspective of delivering mail….as much as it makes me uncomfortable…and as much as it hurts…and as much as it takes me out of my comfort zone….I’m learning a lot about myself, others, and how awesome and great God is through bringing things into the light!
