To the girl who was mistreated:
94% of girls between the ages of 16-19 claim to be in an abusive relationship… So you are not alone!
I too know how it feels to be hurt by the person you “loved.” I had fallen “in love” (or what I had thought to be “in love”) with my high school sweetheart, but it turned into a really bad relationship. He was mentally and emotionally abusive and he took advantage of me completely. The relationship turned into a “if you really love me then you will do this” kind of situation, and I wanted so badly for him to love me as much as I loved him. After doing what he told me I had to do, I always ended up crying and becoming physically sick because I knew it wasn’t God’s plan for me. But, I didn’t listen to those thoughts because I wanted to feel “loved”.
However, even as bad as it got, I do not regret being with him. I have been able to use the pain I suffered through to help mentor other young woman, and the situation I was in helped me learn a lot about who I truly was and how broken I was without Christ. Because of that relationship, I have learned what real love is and what real love is not.
Real love is: 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends…“
That’s the Love God designed for us to experience and to have! One thing I have learned is: it’s not a mistake unless you don’t learn from it. So, please learn from the hurt and the pain. Use your story to grow and encourage other girls/young women who experience the same thing. Tell them that there is hope and that there is a God who loves them and wants the best for them.
If you’re one of those girls, I’m here to tell you that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. God is waiting for you with open arms.
Although the Lord never wants us to hurt, we still do because we live in a extremely broken world. God will never be angry with you or hold your pain over your head. I had to learn that the guilt I felt was not from God but from Satan himself.
Ladies, you are worth so much more than you value yourself. You are worth so much more than that boy or that relationship! The Bible says in Proverbs 31:10 that you are “worth far more than rubies”! Did you hear that? Let that sink in. “worth far more than rubies.” The Lord of all, who created the Heavens and the Earth, thinks you and I are more precious than RUBIES, that just blows my mind!
I encourage anyone who feels trapped or who is in an abusive relationship to get help and to leave. For two reasons:
1. You are worth so much more than this. God never designed relationships to be that way.
2. No man should ever have the right to treat a woman that way. Ladies it’s time to stand up for each other.
Leaving might be the single hardest thing you have ever had to do, up to this point. But ladies let me tell you, it is so worth it! It is so worth the pain and the heartbreak when you finally get to experience real love and a man who respects you and honors you the way God designed.
You are never alone.
