A lesson we have really been learning is selflessness. I am learning how selfish I am. I am also learning how to protect our marriage out here, and how I get selfish in our relationship.
In Lima, one of the girls on squad A asked us if being married on the world race was more difficult than being single. I said I didn´t know what it was like to be single out here so I was unable to answer that question. She also asked if we would suggest other couples to do this. I responded- absolutely! This girl said she did not think she would suggest this for others.
It is my opinion that strain is what strengthens. I said I felt we were in an incredible position to learn and for our relationship, our oneness, to be strengthened. I said that I did not feel that being married is supposed to be a cakewalk, and in the states it was not easy either.
From some more of that conversation, I realized how selflessness and brokenness are such foreign concepts, even to people on this race. I don´t even mean in action, which is a difficult thing, to actually be selfless, I know I don´t have that down yet, but the theory. Or even recognizing one´s selfishness.
So, again I encourage everyone to give this type of life a shot. Realize this is very difficult, but for eternity, I can´t imagine a greater decision, for you, or your family.
It is tough, but as a christian, I am not sure where we are surprised when God calls us to something tough. I know I have not sweat blood in anguish for where I am being called, and the person we are supposed to imitate did. So we need to take our eyes off ourselves or others and focus on Jesus and this life just starts to make sense.
