Whether you’re one of those who dreads this day or fervidly anticipates it, every V-day we humans inevitably have a heightened awareness of our love life—however sad, pathetic, prosperous, abusive, or passionate it may be.
Being made in the image of God means that we were created to love and to be loved. The desire we all have to be loved by someone will never go away because that is how we were created. But WHO are we choosing to love?
God did not create us just to walk the earth aimlessly loving whoever we want. He made us for HIS purposes and that desire to love and be loved, which COMES from Him, is FOR Him.
I think that sharing this life with someone by our side is a wonderful thing. I’m not saying that we were meant to walk this earth alone, but are we first pursuing the one relationship that really matters? The relationship that we were created to cultivate? The whole reason for our existence is so that God can enjoy a relationship with us, and what better way for us to facilitate that than by inviting Him into not only a personal relationship, but into our marriage or the process of dating?
Matthew 22: 37
Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’This is the first and greatest commandment.”
Oh my, how valuable you are that the Lord and creator of the universe made the first and most important commandment to love HIM.
In some of my previous relationships, with hopes that I would wake up from la-la land and see the dysfunction of my current situation, my mom would say to me, “It’s hard to belong to someone else when the right one comes along”
Friends, consider this Valentine’s Day a perfect opportunity to draw a line in the sand and reset your “love life”; re-commit yourself to the Lord, begin pursuing a relationship with Him, end the dead-end relationship you’re in now so that you can give the right person a chance, invite God to be the foundation of your current relationship, or maybe just turn the fear of loneliness over to Him.
I am single and personally, I LOVE IT! I find joy and delight in my relationship with The Lord every day. Loneliness is not a feeling I experience often, and that is because, like in all areas of my life, I am learning to give that one to God. He has made it clear to me that I will remain single for at least another 2 years, and I am so okay with that! I’m excited that I get these next two years, with no outside distractions, to focus solely on my relationship with Him. He is the only one that sustains us; the only one who never leaves us or forsakes us, the only one who loves us SO much that He gave His one and only son to die one of the most painful deaths known to man…for our sins!
How much more than that could you want to be loved?!
The choice is yours. Continue to chase those who don’t want your love, or invite the one who only wants your love? I know for me, when I quit chasing and started to do the inviting, my life took a turn for the better. I would choose this path over chasing a thousand times over. If it’s time for you to make that shift, let my story inspire you to redefine yours.
