“Fear not, for you will not be ashamed; be not confounded, for you will not be disgraced; for you will forget the shame of your youth and the reproach of your widowhood you will remember no more.
For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is his name; and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer, the God of the whole earth he is called. For the Lord has called you like a wife deserted and grieved in spirit, like a wife of youth when she is cast off, says your God.
For a brief moment I deserted you, but with great compassion I will gather you.” (Isaiah 54:4-7)
All of my life I’ve chased affection. I yearned for words of love and affirmation from others. More than anything, I had the desire to be in a relationship and be married; white picket fence, cute family, dog and all.
I am currently 30 years single. I used to be embarrassed to admit this fact. I was so frustrated and confused with God as to why He hadn’t brought ‘that guy’ into my life yet.
I am so thankful now that I haven’t been in a relationship yet. While God has had me in the waiting room of singleness, He has been protecting and preparing me.
Protecting me from bringing my past baggage and hurts into a relationship and dumping its toxicity onto someone else.
Preparing me by healing and working through that baggage and those hurts, and molding me into a healthy, whole woman after God’s own heart before He brings my husband along.
God has been teaching me to be content and to not let the life He has planned for me slip by when I could be living it to the full right now.
I’m not going to sit on my hands anymore watching opportunities roll by. I’m going to chase my dreams with God as my compass, companion and guide.
I will take advantage of every opportunity He places before me and know that in His timing I will be married. I fully believe He has this as part of a plan for my life.
My first love is for my God. To me, there is nothing more important than seeking after the Father Heart of God. When I submit to Him and make His plans my plans, I’m in the best place I can ever be – even if that means sitting in the waiting room.
To all the single women and men out there, let me encourage you; You are worthy, you are important, you are loved.
God has a plan for your life. Go out and live this gift He’s given you and let Him handle the details and timing of the ‘who’ and ‘when’.
I promise it’ll be worth the wait.
