So this past week I have been working on a couple of different properties in Goffstown, Bedford and New Boston here in New Hampshire. It has been physically demanding and mentally boring because of the repetition. I had to manually move about 30 to 35 yards of bark mulch and 9 yards of crushed stone out of the back of a dump-truck by pitchfork and wheelbarrow. But during these tasks, I realized how much more I was doing. By tiring myself and putting all my effort in moving and placing these materials, I was in the process of turning someones property from an eyesore to a focal point. By putting effort into something I enjoyed doing, I made something beautiful that was beautiful prior to me being there.
Now this has had me thinking. The people that owned these properties get to admire at my work and get to show others that they have over. So if I put the same amount of effort into the people and relationships around me, I could potentially help people and make myself feel better in the process.
I’ve always struggled in group settings and finding a core group of friends my age, and it’s not because there was no one around me, but rather because I did not put the effort into making new friendships or engaging with those I was around.
My new personal goal is to purposefully engage with the people surrounding me. I want to deepen the relationships I already have. I’m not going to seclude myself anymore; Now I will choose to force myself to be uncomfortable in social settings with the purpose of making a new friend.
