Sometimes giving people feed back on issues can be difficult. It’s easy to lose your way and fall into a vicious tail spin of accusations. So I have developed a fun way to confront others on the issues that are apparent to every one else. Its a feed back Mad-Lib.
____________ I just want to start off by telling you that you are a man/woman of
(Their Name)
______________ and __________. And I know that God has
(the opposite of what they are doing)
______________ in store for you. I just believe in you so much, and know that you are
(adjective)
____________ and full of ______________. You just bring so much
(The opposite of what they are at the moment)
____________ and ___________ to our team, and I just want to celebrate that. Like last
(Biblical adjectives)
week when you ___________________ it made me so happy to see that you operate in
(random happening)
_____________. And I just want to tell you how much that means. Girl/Bro, you are just so
(Biblical Adjective)
_____________ and ___________, and I just…want to call you up into greatness. So…
(adjectives, *repetition is okay now)
yesterday when you ________________ and just said
(the violation)
______________________ with an attitude of __________________ it made me feel
(what you think they said) (negative Biblical adjective)
_________________ and _________________.
(opposite AIM buzz words, *see preference and honor)
I know that you are not _______________, and since I believe the best in you, and want
(repeat negative Bible adj.)
______________ for you, I wanted you to know that I perceived you as
(positive Bible adj.)
________________ and ________________. Since you will no longer be acting this way as
(violation and or negative Bible adj. for emphasis)
it is now brought to your attention, you can just say “thank you” and we will put this little matter behind us. Oh, and you’re welcome.
***Remember when you are talking to pause and say the word “just” as many times as possible. For example,
I want you to stop eating all the cereal before I wake up.
OR
I just want….you to….just…..stop eating all the cereal before I wake up.
See the difference.
So future conflict, you have been warned!
