I think I’m more confused than ever. What does marriage look like in community?
Being together all the time? Ministering together? Sharing everything with eachother, whether physical items or emotions? Having a beer together after a job well done? Leading by example, as the rest of the people here are single?
Since the debrief in Nicaragua Scott and I have been told by AIM staff that we need to focus on our marriage and on eachother. That we have to go on dates every week. And Scott was even asked to step down from leadership so that we could focus on our marriage. What does that mean? Focus on our marriage? I thought we were.
Scott and I have always said that ministering together is the main focus of why we’re even together. If we’re not serving the Lord together than we’re just serving ourselves. I understand that serving eachother is serving the Lord, but that is an outpouring of what God is doing in us. Scott and I have always pushed eachother to greatness, we’ve always wanted to see eachother grow. And ministry is a huge part of the growth process.
So, I know that focusing on eachother doesn’t mean to back off from the ministry that’s happening around the world and through the World Race. But if we’re told to get alone time, then our team misses out on time with us, and it further separates us from our team. Is that ok? Is that what we’re supposed to do because we’re married? Is our team to expect that they won’t have as fulfilling a relationship with us than they have with eachother?
If that’s not the answer, than how do we gain the hours in the day? Ultimately, if Scott and I take time out for eachother, than the team misses out on time with us. And because the girls on our team are very emotional, relational people, they will feel that need for more from us. So, back to my original question… what does marriage look like in community?
I don’t have the answer.
