Singleness. It's hard. It feels as if youre alone. by yourself. hidden. Te area no one wants to be content with. The season no one wants to be in, and the place that feels like you’ve discovered a deeper level of alone and heartache. The moments where it hurts and you question if you'll ever be in a relationship.
He did say, “It is not good for man to be alone,” right? So, why hasn’t He put a guy in my life yet? I'm 20 and all my friends are getting in relationships, getting engaged, getting married and having kids. Sometimes I feel like I'm step behind everyone else, but in reality I'm not. I'm exactly where I need to be, nothing less and nothing more. God knows what I need, he doesn't give me what I need.
There is something behind being single? Yes. God always has a plan and a reason for everything.
Instead of constantly trying to get out of being single, maybe we should consider why we’re in and not in a relationship yet. Instead of feeling alone maybe we should be thankful with where God has us right now. Instead of frantically questioning maybe we should peacefully be trusting in everything that God is doing in our life as being single.
Instead of searching for the man or woman you want to marry, use this season to become the man or woman that God wants you to be. We’re very quick to find fault in God and others, but rarely willing to consider how we might need to grow and how we can mature in some areas. A humble heart will see singleness as a time to draw near to the Lord and reflect on how you need to change to become more like Him. As you follow Jesus and ask Him to transform your heart, you are going to begin to attract the right kind of man or woman in Gods perfect timing.
If this season of our life is singleness we all need to take it very seriously, it's a beautiful time to grow in the Lord. It's an important time that God has given us for a reason. It's a time to really focus on what God has planned for our life. And really stick with it, and not let some guy change that. The desires of The Lord for your life.
"God is in the business of protecting His children and leading us into the place of greatest joy. This means He knows what you need and when you need it. Whether WE want o be in a relationship that is not what WE need. There is intent, purpose, and a reason behind this period in your life."
Alot of the time with the topic on Singleness, I feel as if it's always what we want, asking God "why aven't you put that man in my life?" "Where is he?" "Why am i still single?" and wanting to know our own future and not waiting on God for the perfect timing and being content. We are not here to have the ultimate goal of finding our husband and living happy ever after. Our calling is to do what our Heavenly Father has called is to do and through that he will guide that man in his own way and timing.
Sin
"Maybe there’s sin and He’s preventing you from inviting someone else into the mess in your life. Two sinners don’t fix each other’s problems. God uses marriage and relationships for our sanctification, it will be blessing when it happens in God's timing not on our own timing. It could easily be a total mess. but He also uses singleness to spare us pain, consequence and to keep us from pulling others down. This is cause for gratitude and gratefulness, not anger and bitterness. He’s protecting all His children because He loves them. God know exactly what we need at the perfect timing.
Serve
God may need you to serve in such a way right now, where all your energy, time and attention need to be devoted to what He’s calling you into. God allows singleness because this life is not about you but about His Kingdom and His purposes being accomplished. This is cause for thankfulness and joy, that our Father would invite us into His work and want us to be a part of what He’s doing.
Slow
Perhaps God just wants you to wait patiently and trust Him.
Many of us say we want Jesus to be King, but if we’re honest, it’s only true as long as he runs things the way we would do it.The second he veers from our plan we fight to take the reins back. God may take us on a completely different path from what we have planned for our own life. But that's just it, it's not our own plans that matter. It's God plans that give us the ultimate satisfaction and joy.
God knows more than you do. His plan is perfect, His timing without flaw. The ultimate question is do you desire God’s will over your own? Will you trust Him? This season might be the time to slow down, stop resisting and be thankful that God is making you into the man or the woman that He needs you to be for His purposes and for His glory."
Here are some questions to ask yourself in seasons of singleness?
1) Am I looking to get out before looking to understand why God might have me here and what he wants me to learn?
2) Are all my thoughts toward singleness bitter and resentful? What are the blessings and opportunities I am afforded during this season?
3) Do I truly believe that I have worth and value as an individual created in the image of God?
4) Am I using my extra time to contribute to the Kingdom or to question God and complain?
5) Am I banking on a relationship to fix the sin issues in my life, or am I desiring the Holy Spirit to help sanctify me now?
God has really been teaching so much on this. Giving me content in it. I'm so thankful for this time, this time that I can focus on God and what he has called me to do. It is a beautiful and joyful season in my life. The time I can learn and grow to be te woman I'm called to be. The time where I can be praying for my future husband and what I'm looking for in a relationship in God's timing. Singleness is important to me, and i'm taking this time to grow my relationship with my Heavenly Father. I'm thankful that God has given me the peace and contentment in singleness, and finding my fulfillment in Christ, and desiring to spend more time in the Word and really understand it.
Getting in a relationship is beautiful as long as God is in the center. We may trow our hearts out to anoter man or woman throughout our life at times. But we need to be reminded tat we need to guard our heart. And not just give our heart to everyone. If we go through relationsips and break ups, relationsips and break ups, and all over again. Then what will our future husband or wife have? They won't ave any of our heart because we gave a piece of our heart to every relationsip we were in our past.
And really ask yourself is this a Christ centered relationsip?
Take this as you please, I'm not te expert. But take everyting to God. Because he is the expert in everyting and he knows what's best for each individual.
