(no, not corona)
“insecurity among women is epidemic, but it is not incurable. don’t expect it to go away quietly, however. we are going to have to let truth scream louder to our souls than the lies that have infected us.” -beth moore
came across this quote the other day and i couldn’t agree more. this isn’t just the case for women but for men too. and not just in this generation but the one before. not just america but all nations. society as a whole has been deeply affected. and if the enemy has gone as far as to affect the world with such a thing, then there must be an incredible power that comes from security and confidence that he is fighting to keep us from. i believe a lot of the evil we face today has stemmed from this epidemic.
for a long time i’ve personally allowed insecurity to rule my life, my confidence, my emotions. but why? because it’s NOT truth. the truth is we are deeply loved. the truth is we are beautifully and purposefully created. the truth is we are called worthy. it’s time for us to choose truth over lies. it’s time for us to remain confident in who we were created to be. it’s not gonna be easy and sometimes we may have to fight for it. but i would rather live in the light of truth than the dark dingy constraining holds of the lies that i’ve let rule my life for so long. i know to some of you i sound dramatic and maybe i am but don’t tell me you’ve lived your life in utter self love and security. so please choose to see yourself in a new light today. choose to look into the eyes of the negative thoughts and comments and say, “not today”.
another thing that God has shown me is to value relationships but not to let them define my value. for so long i’ve had this backwards. i’ve always found my security in who i was or wasn’t friends with. i got my confidence from what people thought about me. but guysss. this is so exhausting. and such a roller coaster.
for a long time it was hard for me to remain steady in my emotions and my confidence. that’s because i was placing them in unsteady things and unsteady people. feelings of insecurity ARE gonna come. emotions WILL hit. but when we choose to surrender our identity to a God thats never changing, never failing we can remain constant in our self confidence.
and we can do this by simply acknowledging those things but then releasing them and declaring that we ARE worthy and we ARE loved. my friend was telling me the other day that she has always pictured taking our thoughts captive (from 2 Corinthians 10:5) as trying to capture and wrangle them, but that it’s really about acknowledging them and letting them drift away because at the end of the day it really and truly is just a thought. i love that picture. so freeing. think about that. JUST a thought. just a thought that we can let float away like a mere balloon. that’s not to say you’re not valid in thinking or feeling things but know that you also have the freedom to let lies go.
second, we can do this by choosing time with God above time with friends. now i’m not saying to only spend time reading your bible and never go out with friends. but i know that sometimes i agree to engagements simply because i don’t want to miss out. but sometimes what i need more than being with friends is to be with my Father. when i prioritize my relationship with God first, it becomes more natural for my confidence to stem from that.
lastly, we can do this by listening to the voice of the Lord and not the voices of others and of society. people shouldn’t have a say in how we view ourselves. i’ve learned that, sure, some people are gonna have negative things to say or think about me but that doesn’t mean that they’re true. it doesn’t mean i have to listen to them or let them define me. at the end of the day, i get to choose how i perceive myself.
so this is just what i’ve been learning and wrestling with lately. i hope this can be an encouragement to someone. i believe insecurity is an epidemic and i’m passionate about stopping it.
all the love,
kenni g
