An unsaid expectation is an unrealistic expectation
We as people need to take a moment and think. Why am I here? Why am I on the race? Those are good questions, but more than that, what am I doing right now? When I came into this trip did I come in with the expectation of growing in a community, or that I would be playing with children all the time, or even doing construction? As I sit here and know what my expectations are, and what I thought about coming into this situation, I also know that everyone is different and comes from different backgrounds. So, why am I so quick to expect everyone to have the same exact expectation as I do?
Think about this: Every single person starts their day with their own expectations. They believe they know how their day is going to go, then something happens that they weren’t expecting. Then we go into our day knowing none of that and they cancel plans with us, you take it personally because you had the expectation that you would get to spend time with them. Think about how encouraging it is to give that anger up and led with joy. Don’t let your tongue overpower and ruin a situation that could be so simple. I believe and led my life with the expectation of loving those around me and serving them and yes, I often fail; but I try so hard to encourage those around me and am working on not taking things personally. That starts with understanding that everyone around us has different views and we’re raised differently. Each passerby has a life as vivid and complex as your own.
My life and walk is completely different from every single person around me. Yes, some people have experienced similar seasons, but they have walked all different ways of life and have had a different perspective than me. Our expectation has been molded and grown unique to each of us. Remember that your tongue is powerful. A kind compliment can lead you to some good friendship but some unnecessary comments lead to uncomfortable conversation and have potentially ruined a friendship. A little thing can control the big.
When I was younger my Aunt asked me, “Kendra, what natural disaster would affect us here in Washington the worst”, I thought about it,
Simple. wild fire
a small camp fire can cause a huge forest fire that can kill thousands, now think about how small your tongue is and how big of a problem it can cause when we don’t think through what is happening. Think before you act and remember that next time you are frustrated or having a hard time with another person, what is there background, what is there expectation, and then think what is your expectations coming into the situation. Could they be different and if so communicate, talk through the situation and figure out how you can come together and lift each other up. God calls us to walk with others and to be a blessing to others. You are a child of God and your identity is in Him who loves you!
