I am a single someone who has never been in a serious
relationship. For some reason this past year, the Lord decided that he was
going to teach me more about relationships and make me very aware of the relationships
all around me. And so, I have been keener in my observations of these
said relationships. Maybe it’s because I’m at a point where I’d like
to be in one and so my observations have been heightened, or maybe it’s because
everyone seems to be in a relationship now, or maybe it’s because God has a purpose in it. In any case, God
has taught me a lot more about His heart, about the ups and downs of relationships, and how it’s no
easy task to enter into and continue on in one.
I have learned a lot about relationships in 2011.
So the following are tidbits of wisdom that God has taught
me this past year about relationships, about myself, and about what to look for
in a future someone of some nature. This is obviously not an exhaustive list, but here are a few things:
1.
Communication is so important.
2.
You have to be secure in Christ and your identity in Him and know and
love yourself prior to entering a relationship.
3.
Submission is difficult but so good. You
constantly have to honor the other person and surrender the selfishness that so
often creeps in.
4.
It does no good to try to make something happen.
Wait to be pursued, girls. God’s got it.
5.
It’s a deeper (human) commitment than I will ever know
until I know through experience.
6.
It’s scary as hell (or at least it seems that
way).
7.
Trust is huge. I feel like love and trust are synonymous,
or at least should be.
8.
I have to have someone I have fun with but who
can also be serious when we need to be serious.
9.
You should be better together than you are
apart-both for the Kingdom of God and for being more fully alive.
10. Relationships
are a lot of work.
11. But
they can be worth it.
some degree. And I will tuck them away and continue on observing (I’m not a
creeper, I promise!) and store away more wisdom in my heart, in case for
whatever reason it becomes useful and relevant information.
*And I am writing blogs like this because they’re more personal,
about what’s on my heart and things God has been teaching me. And feel free to comment but I would
appreciate the, “oh you’ll find someone someday, hunnie,” comments to
be kept to a minimum (eh hem, grandma). Thanks. I didn’t write this blog for
that reason. 🙂
