He has saved us and called us to a holy life–not because of anything we have done but because of his own purpose and grace. This grace was given us in Christ Jesus before the beginning of time, Timothy 1:9
Society has put such a nasty spin of the single life. We are made to think that our lives are to revolve around love and finding the “one”. Men and women alike are looked down upon if they are NOT in a relationship. We are made to believe that there must be something wrong with those that are single for an extended time of their life.
Well I am here to tell you- I am 21. I am a female. I have been single for over 3 years. Oh and I am happy. And why yes I could possibly meet my soul mate on the race, but that is in NO way one of my reasons for going on this journey. It is my calling from God. That is all.
Do I want to create a lifetime with someone someday? Why yes of course! The pressures from our society weigh heavily on me. But that someone is NOT going to be just anyone. Instead I choose to live for the now. To find my own purpose through Christ.
Yet when I tell people that there is no significant other in my life I can feel the worry and almost pity…especially from other Christians. Marriage is held on such a high pedestal in the Christian world. As if how could a women have a purpose without a man by her side. I could imagine many gentleman feel the same pressure to find themselves a wife.
God does not want us to live in chains. Jesus Christ came to set us free! We are called to live a spectacular life full of goodness and love no matter our position in life. God is ALWAYS working through our lives. For through Him we are never alone.
Here is the real kicker though. The I am happy part seems to get to people. How could I possibly be happy, and why I am not searching high and low for a man?!
I have been through the trenches. My one choice of who I thought was the “one” ended in pain, betrayal, and left me completely alone. Fortunately from those depths I was able to climb up to find my Lord and SAVIOR. Instead of boys, my focus has turned to my relationship with God. He has healed my broken heart. I can truly say I am happy with who Christ made me to be- faults and all!
There of course are many hard days. Days when the enemy creeps in through feelings of loneliness and fear. Every time I am reminded it is not in my hands. It is hard not to look and hope. Somedays I would give anything to be hopelessly in love. I would give everything, except for my relationship with God.
If I have learned anything it is that I am not qualified to choose the man I spend the rest of my life with. As Christians we so easily hand every part of our lives over to God EXCEPT our love life. Why is this? What would happen if we gave FULL control of this matter over to God?
I challenge you to really think about this, and what it would mean.
For me it is life changing. I still slip up, and the enemy creeps in BUT I firmly believe in my heart that God’s got this all in His perfect timing.
