As I begin to understand what having a “brother in Christ” means, I am learning that this is a new concept to me. Looking back, I have had many Christian guys in my life, but in retrospect my relationships with them were all superficial in comparison to this new depth I am discovering. The same Christian guys do not seem to be a norm in my life, there always seems to be another agenda, or a “wanting to date” mentality that gets in the way of actually going deeper as a brother and sister in Christ. As soon as “dating” is NOT in the picture anymore, the friendship starts to dissipate. Thus, no longer having a great Christian guy in my life.
I now realize that so many people do not know how important it is to have “brothers and sisters in Christ.” This issue has actually been something my team has started to discuss. We realize that a true brother/sister relationship in Christ has never been modeled for us, until we met some of the staff of the World Race. Now, we KNOW what it is , and what it LOOKS like, but we are just beginning the journey of how to get there.
I have lacked true brothers in Christ. At the same time I have not been a true sister in Christ either. The rest of this trip, I am going
to have the chance to really become a sister to my brother TIM,
as well as some of the other men on my squad. I don’t want the
mindset, “Is he being nice to me because he likes me?” or “Is he
spending time growing deeper in relationship with me, because
he wants to date me?” I want a true brother in Christ–nothing
more nothing less, and I want to be a sister back! I want to
have new brothers for life, who challenge me in my relationship
with Christ, who help me become who I was created to be in
Christ, who love me through my strengths and weaknesses, and who call greatness out of me.
As I allow this brother/sister mentality to become a part of who I am to my fellow Christians, I realize that I am raising a standard and taking a risk. I realize that the person I one day marry’ will HAVE to first be a true “brother in Christ” to me, that I am able to be a TRUE “sister in Christ” to.
