I will be faithful to you and make you mine, and you will finally know me as the LORD. – Hosea 2:20
A few weeks ago, I had a dream that it was my wedding. Except during what’s supposed to be one of the most celebrated days of my life, everything that could’ve gone wrong did.
My maid of honor called unapologetically and told me she was running late and will likely miss the ceremony, the other bridesmaids and I had to go to Payless Shoes that morning to get our shoes fixed, the food served at my reception was fast food Japanese and Chinese food and only a tiny portion was brought to each guest.
I remember going through the day feeling like a mere participant and not the bride. “Is this really my own wedding?” “I need a word with the wedding planner!” I kept asking my bridesmaids throughout the day.
But the worst part of the dream was there was never any mention of the groom. The groom never showed himself throughout the wedding day. And everything went about as normal and no one seemed to have noticed the absence of the groom for a wedding. There’s no groom at my wedding. With this realization, this dream quickly turned into a nightmare.
When I woke up, I puzzled over the meaning of this dream for a while. To dream about my wedding is supposed to be a happy thing but this one sure isn’t the wedding I have dreamt of. Through spiritual eyes, I realize it’s better to have no wedding at all than to have a wedding that is this kind of cheap imitation. After this grain of truth, I continue to feel the revelation from the dream.
Up until a few years ago I have sought after quick meet-ups and fast romances to fulfill my need for love and intimacy. What I thought were charming “chance meetings” and “girl meets boy” stories from my travels and various “serendipitous” times in my life turned out to be false hopes that led to broken hearts and counterfeit intimacy.
These kinds of relationships and behavior will only result in a cheapened version of what’s supposed to be the most elegant and extravagant wedding. There’s absolutely no reward for these relationship shortcuts. The rewards of a cheap wedding are fast fixes (represented by going to Payless Shoe store the morning of the wedding), the kind of bad company (my maid of honor), and the absence of my groom.
On the contrary, a true love’s wedding deserves much preparation, it deserves the utmost quality, and at the center of the wedding, and it’s most important part, is the presence of the groom.
Lord thank you for showing me what a true love’s wedding looks like. I shall patiently and eagerly await for it.
