Since as long as I could remember, I've wanted to be married.
I've done a lot of things that maybe I am not so proud of for just a glimpse or glimer that I could get married.
I have changed my dreams, my desires, and my hopes, all in effort for some guy to find that I could be his wife.
It sounds pathetic. But it's true.
I tell you this in honesty because I know I haven't been and will not be the only one.
We as women tend to settle just so that we can so happily call ourselves a girlfirend or potentially a wife. It's not that we do it for fun, but we desire it so desperately.
I've been thinking about it, and I realize that we put so much pressure on ourselves to have a love relationship.
Somewhere along the line we have taught ourselves that single is lonely.
But in Psalms it says that God sets the lonely in families….I mean serisouly read for yourself:
"God sets the lonely in families, he leads out the prisoners with singing; but the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land." -Psalm 68:6
Has every women you met that is married been exuberently happy?
I mean I don't know where you are from, but every married women I have met isn't happy.
Now I am not saying marriage is bad and I am not against marriage, I am actually pro-marriage. But marriage is a different season with its own ups and downs. I mean I don't know too much about it.
But I do want to point out that single can be very good if we as women do it right.
How do you do it right?
Well first, stop thinking that every guy is a potential husband.
This creates an awkward situation and also puts too much pressure on you to be somebody you are not.
Enjoy the guys in your life as brothers! That's what they are there for and trust me, it will create a safe enviroment for everyone involved.
Second take those dreams you have and make them a reality rather than waiting for a husband to do it with you.
You know what I am talking about. You know those thoughts like:
"I don't want to start ministry till I get a husband."
"I don't want to go to Bora Bora till I go on my honeymoon."
"I don't want to live a full life till I am married."
These thoughts are pish posh. Start the ministry God has for you now, and when the time comes, the man that God has for will fit right in.
DON'T FIT A MINISTRY AROUND A MAN…THE MAN MUST FIT IN WITH THE MINISTRY.
Instead of waiting for a husband to go to Bora Bora…….start saving your money and invite friends or family. (In case you never get married, you would miss out on adventures you could be living now for nothing.)
LIVE A FULL LIFE NOW…LIFE IS MEANT TO BE FULL!
Single does not equate loneliness.
Single = a full season that you can use to focus on God and do many crazy adventures.
I've realized lately that if I never get married it will not be the end of the world.
You remember the story of Abraham and Isaac (Genesis 22). God asks Abraham to sacrafice a person he cherishes so much, his son. The one which God promised to him.
Abraham started sacraficing his son because he loved God more. But God stopped him and then provided Abraham with a ram.
I feel that if I sacrafice my desire to be married that God will provide.
Now this doesn't mean He will always provide a husband.
It means that God will provide potentially a husband or whatever I need to live a full life…this could be the gift of singleness.
If I am meant to be married, I have complete faith He will provide a man to pursue me.
If I am meant to be single , I have complete faith that God will teach me how to live this way.
I am living on complete faith.
Till God tells me, I am single with a chance of marriage.
I still need 2312.04 to meet my next deadline on April 1! Any amount will help!
