Confidence is sexy, or so they say. What is it about confidence that intimidates people? Recently someone said to me that when they first met me they didn’t want to talk to me because I was intimidating. Now this isn’t the first time someone has told me I am intimidating, but it has me thinking what about me is intimidating? I was talking to another friend and she said that people are intimidated by confidence. What is it about confidence that is intimidating though?
I think it’s when we see our insecurities, the areas that we struggle with bring fearlessly lived out in other people, that’s when we become intimidated. I have learned that embracing your insecurities and learning to love yourself right where you’re at is where the confidence comes from. It isn’t in the way people look at you, think or say about you, how many Instagram likes you can get. It starts with your heart. How are we supposed to accept the amazing things other people see in us if we can’t choose to see them for ourselves?
If we are constantly comparing ourselves to the people around us for all the things we don’t like about ourselves, we will never be happy. What would it look like if we were to compliment other people on the way we see them being confident. What if we actually believed the words people say to us when they compliment us, instead of shying away from them. I believe we have the power to be a people of influence and change on the world around us and it starts with little things like saying thank you when someone gives you a compliment or complimenting someone for something you like about them. A little kindness goes a long way, and people wont forget the words you speak to them. You hold power in your words, and you have the power to change the atmosphere of a room with your boldness and confidence. Don’t be ashamed of the confidence that is inside you, even if people say you’re intimidating. You never know the impact you may have on someone to by just being you.
Stay Salty.
