Throughout the race I’ve listened to a few podcasts about relationships and dating and it really got me thinking. I don’t think we, as women, know what we deserve in a man. We know what we want most of the time, but what do we deserve?
I caught myself thinking this morning, “do I set the bar too high?” when it comes to dating. That isn’t a thought that should even come up in our heads.
Why don’t we deserve a man with everything we want?
I feel like if you don’t love your creator you can never learn to love yourself or others properly. Once you fall in love with Jesus your definition of love and beauty completely changes, in that he shows you what you deserve in a man and husband.
I think we as women settle for less, we think “he will change” or the famous “I can change him” but in reality neither of those will happen. We think “he only hit me once, he said he wont do it again” or “he was drinking too much so its okay”. And the one that everybody knows, the nice girl with the dbag of a boyfriend. The one who always ditches and never says anything nice or loving. The one who never treats a women how she should be treated. OPEN YOUR EYES LADIES. If a man cant love himself, how is he going to love you? How is he going to be a father to your babies?
We deserve a man who will sacrificially love you, like Jesus loves. He should cherish and care for you. He should wait on you, and have self control. Boyfriends don’t have husband privileges. He must have a confidence in the Lord, trusting in a BIG God. He should point you to Him and not himself. He should have a love that is genuine. His selfishness should turn to service. There should be a commitment where you want to marry them with all of their messiness.
This man should have to go to God to get your heart.
Don’t settle for less than you deserve.
