This is a true story of a 24 year old bar girl…
I lived the Thai dream. I started working in Pattaya when I was 18 years old. It didn’t take long for me to meet a man from Ireland. The man and I fell in love and got married. We moved back to my village and bought a really nice, expensive 3BR/2BA house. We lived together for one year and then married.
After four years, my husband died suddenly. He had a heart attack. He was pretty old, he was 63 and he smoked and drank a lot!! His family wouldn’t even come to his funeral.
For two months I lived by myself in the house. Everywhere I looked I saw him and I would remember things we use to do. I was so lonely that I couldn’t take it anymore. So I decided to move back to Pattaya and go back to work in the same bar that I met my husband. I’ve now been at this bar for one year. I only have two more years and then I can go back to my nice house in my village. (I promised myself that I wouldn’t return for three years and I don’t want to go back by myself.)
I don’t need the money; I don’t have to work. I just get so lonely. I have friends at the bar but when I go back to my apartment, no one’s there. One day I’ll marry again and have a lot of money and then my brothers and sisters (who all have professional jobs and make a lot of money in the cities) will come to me and want to borrow my money.
Yes, your math was right, this man married a girl who was 40 years younger then he was. And he did give her the Thai bar girl’s dream and then like so many other stories I’ve heard, he died. It happens all the time here! And then the girl has nothing else to do but go back to live the life that she knew before – being a bar girl.
Unfortunately, this girl has become caught up in the lie that money will solve all of her problems. She’s waiting on Mr. Right to come to the bar. However she’s not like most bar girls I’ve met, she wants to be at the bar. She’s so lonely she can’t stand to be by herself. She would rather sell her body then go home and be by herself.
Please pray that this girl will go to the Tamar Center not to learn English (which she speaks very well) but out of loneliness. There she will find the love of God and that void in her heart can finally be filled!
