HE CANT HAVE MY SOUL!
When I first started this journey with Christ I brought a lot of crap with me, I mean a lot of crap. It’s so nice to know that He met me in all my mess and LOVED me right OUT of it!(not that I’m perfect by any means now, still far from it) I didn’t have to be perfect before I came to know him, let’s face it that won’t ever happen. If your waiting till you get your act together you will NEVER EVER follow Jesus. It just won’t happen, not the way the Big Guy works. We are all sinners saved by grace in need of a savior, and let’s face the facts–God is a BETTER savior than we can ever be a sinner.
This whole time I thought I was running away, but I’ve come to realize God called me away so that I could heal and learn to walk in freedom!
At this point in blog reading you should know my story and what my struggles where up till now. An enormous part of my Christian walk has been centered around breaking a soul tie.
WHAT IS A SOUL TIE?
A soul tie is like a linkage in the soul realm between two people. It links their souls together, which can bring fourth both beneficial results or negative results. The positive effect of a soul tie: In a godly marriage, God links the two together and the Bible tells us that they become one flesh. As a result of them becoming one flesh, it binds them together and they will cleave onto one another in a unique way. The purpose of this cleaving is to build a very healthy, strong and close relationship between a man and a woman.
Soul ties can also be found in close strong or close friendships. They are not just limited to marriage, as we can see with King David and Jonathan:
1 Samuel 18:1, “And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.”
The negative effect of a soul tie: Soul ties can also be used for the devil’s advantage. Soul ties formed from sex outside of marriage causes a person to become defiled:
Genesis 34:2-3, “And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her. And his soul cleaved unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel, and spoke kindly unto the damsel.”
This is why it is so common for a person to still have ‘feelings’ towards an ex-lover that they have no right to be attracted to in that way. Even 20 years down the road, a person may still think of their first lover… even if he or she is across the country and has their own family, all because of a soul tie!
Songs, pictures, certain foods, colors, certain words, or phrases, smells (huge one),department stores, and restaurants remind you of the person. It’s because your soul is tied to them through the person. I know I sound crazy but it’s the truth.
MY PERSONAL SOUL TIE.
Let me give you some examples. Song by Adele One and Only, couldn’t listen to it 5 months ago it literally hurt. During team time I was in the kitchen in Malaysia and we were playing a game and as I was making tea the song started to play. I heard the first note and freaked out. It honestly kinda scared me how much control things still had over my life, me and the team prayed and I went on about my life. Not really knowing how to deal with it. Then in India scrolling through Instagram a picture pops up and my heart stopped, the breath was knocked right out of me. Stuff like this ever happen to you?
I remember asking God, why I still wasn’t over this. I should be over this by now. I’m tired of dealing with this. What the heck is going on. I’ve prayed against it for too dang long to still be stuck in this place. I know it’s a process and I know it won’t all go away at once, but dang Gina I’m tired of it.
How will I ever move on? How will I ever love someone again? How will I react when I get home and possibly see her (not on purpose, we live in the same town) Ever ask questions like this? Ever think you won’t ever be able to give your all to someone, cause someone still has a piece of you, and I’m not just talking about gays or lesbians, this ones for every dysfunctional relationship you’ve ever been in and wanted out of. Ever have a guy/girl you knew wasn’t right for you, but your soul is tied so you can’t get away from. You can get away and you can give you all to someone else. Love is a choice not a feeling, so is falling out of love. It’s just a bit harder to do the second. It’s hard to remove the love because now you share something more than just love. Your soul is in it, not just your emotions.
While on this crazy journey one night I was spending some time in serious prayer about what to do, and it hit me break ever soul tie at the source. My spirit said it’s almost over Candace, preserver and it will all change. Cut them at the source.
BREAKING MY SOUL TIE.
So I downloaded some songs that reminded me of her, wrote down phrases and words, found an old picture of us, and wrote down some other things that just reminded me of her. So I played the playlist of songs over and over and every time a new song started I prayed to cut the soul tie the song had, and the tie I had to her through the song. I prayed over everything while listening to the playlist, from restaurants we went to, to things she would say, cute names she would call me, I even had to pray over football.. Still a Bama fan though! ROLL TIDE!!! 🙂 after a few hours I felt lighter. I felt like the end had finally come. Something funny about God is, when i decided to do this, He started bringing things in my path I could pray over. We went to have dinner at our contacts house and she made buffalo chicken sandwiches, that was her favorite meal and I cooked it a lot for us. My blessing for the food was a bit different that night, thank God because I really love buffalo chicken sandwiches. Hehe
WHY OUR WORDS ARE IMPORTANT.
See when we send prayers and praise up, his glory can come down. When we speak against things he is faithful to help break off the chains that bond us. The power of life and death are in our tongues, breaking a soul tie is speaking life. I defeated death with my words. There is something so exciting about knowing that God not only hears our prayers and petitions, He answers them! What? This can’t be correct, God hears me and loves me enough to help me? You betcha! 🙂 pick up any bible and read it, you will be surprised at how much he loves us, and what He is capable of doing! It starts with us though. God doesn’t just sit up the thrown and help out who He thinks needs help. He helps those who want help, and fervently seek his face! Who speak things into existence, and know that words have power.
I started the breakage of soul ties, because I refuse to fall into the trap of satan again. I am a new creation made in the image of Christ! I knew it would be a matter of time before I fell and had to pick my self up and start all over again with this, and honestly I was sick and tired of this vicious cycle I was putting us both through!
A few weeks ago I was listing to my iPad just like normal, One and Only comes on and I got half way through it before I realized what song it was and that it should have sent me into a downward spiral of crazy, insane emotions, that I still count get rid of. Instead, I sang it at the top of my lungs in such freedom, because it’s just a song, and has no tie to me, or my life.
Whenever God asks you step away from something that you think you can’t live without, it’s because He is going to bring something into your life you never thought possible. When we are obedient to Him He can begin to do the impossible in our lives. What an amazing promise from a father who loves us! 🙂
GET YOU SOME FREEDOM! 🙂
I’m coming home in freedom from this relationship, I no longer spend all my time and energy thinking about how hard it is, how I should be over it already. Nope, not anymore. Not with the God of possibles giving me a way out through the blood of Christ, and the power of my testimony. It’s finally over!
There is so much freedom in Christ and I’m walking fully in the freedom he has for me and my life. Walking in the freedom is your choice though. You can have as much or as little as you want. It’s up to you. If you want out, He offers a way! 🙂
Much love
