I currently work at a warehouse where I ship gifted pecans intercontinental to random people allover. One of my new co-workers is this stereotypical black dude off the street. He’s dropped out of high school, has like 3 random jobs, and is actually quite nice. In a normal conversation he asked, like so many others around the WORLD, if I was married or had a girl-friend. Upon my reply of “No, I’ve honestly never had a relationship such as that”, the look of confusion was written all over this guys face of “WHY?”.
Then the fun back and forth reasoning and questioning of one of the most interesting topics. Yup. Sex. From this guys point of view, he sees absolutely no wrong in having sex with whomever whenever, and doesn’t really understand why I on the other hand decide to wait until marriage. So, for the next week him and I go back and forth. Mainly me questioning him in what he believes is important in relationships, why/if he really wants to get married, and me explaining how I view the Whole issue of having sex before marriage. He even offered to get me a prostitute for Christmas. Quite thoughtful, but I had to gently decline.
It got me thinking for sure. I concluded on a few thoughts.
One’s view of relationships is largely based during the young teenage years. How you see your parents relationship, what the StuPid media is saying what it is, and the opinions of your Peers.
I feel that many Christians automatically judge and turn a cold shoulder to one who views sex as “just for fun” or something like that. This in turn, may hurt those who struggle with it.
If you grew up your whole life and NoBody ever told you the pros and cons and the deep-meaning of sex, then you Might go around acting on instinct and “feeding” that desire of “love” no matter the cost.
Of course we come up with Reasons such as it feels good, there’s no Hurt in doing it, it’s natural, I don’t care, and maybe even so daring as to use the quote of being fruitful and multiply. The list goes on. Ok, so what if I have sex. What does that matter? A LOT. Core feelings of wanting to feel Loved, I want to feel acknowledged by a Woman, or how about I want to feel like a Man and Powerful. What does one sacrifice in trying too hard for such things that the world is Telling us that a “Man” is.
I view a man as one who has respect for themselves and towards women, being responsible for ones actions, Show Character and Honesty, and Be a Man of God and Control your flesh desires. This is a tough one, I’ll more than admit. That’s why it’s Very important to get a Good group of guys who will call greatness out of you and likewise. Not ones who degrade you and put pressure that will demand you to lower your morals.
I realized that this type of guy I work with is the one that needs the Most Love and Attention, Not being criticized. I remembered that a Lie is Just as Equal as Adultery. Sin is Sin in God’s eyes. It doesn’t matter what it is. We have Control Over our Thoughts and Actions. Sit and dwell on that a bit. The Awesome thing about God is that when He sees us, He doesn’t see our Sin and wrong doings. He sees the Good in us and Loves us more than we can Possibly Fathom. He wants us to “go forth and sin no more”, and doing our best in being like Jesus. Whom is our Perfect Example of Holy Living.
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