So I've been wanting to do write this blog for about two months but I really wasn't sure how to go about it. I wanted to do a video blog but lack the video editing skills so I've got some time today so I am going to type it out and im going to figure out how to put pictures in a blog post at the same time.
So I've been talking about this with a handful of people lately. What makes a good relationship? In a country that is so set on self pleasure and doing it yourself, essentially driving a wedge inbetween you and your loved one. What can YOU do to strengthen your relationships? This doesn't have to be about our dating/married relationships but also our closest friendships as well. A very smart friend once told me "Love is a triangle, not one of those messy soad opera ones, but between you two and God" I loved that then and I think I love it more today. I've spent countless hours/days thinking about this and it blows my mind how true it is.
This is where my math nerd comes out a little… I mean a lot. God is an unchanging constant, So his angle will never change. If his angle never changes that means that the opposite side will also never change, meaning that God will not change so that you and your relationship with the other person can change. It won't happen! God is the constant, he is ALWAYS the constant. Ok so now that we know what we can't do to bring us closer what CAN we do?
We CAN draw closer to God. The only way that we can truly become closer in our close personal relationships its to cut down the distance between the two of you and God. No other way will last, you can stetch a rubber band and twist it, but it will return to its orginal shape. you can break it but thats a different story. Well why God? Why can't this just be about us? Draw a straight line, its not all the difficult, thought on somedays I would argue that point with you. Now lower your head to the same level as your desk(to where you are looking across it) and try and draw that same length straight line. What made it easy to have such a straight line is that you were above it, you were looking down on it directing it. Now lets take a look at your second line, this is kind of how mine looked
A not so straight not at all neat line. The second line is when we try to do it on our own. The first one is when we place God above the paper and allow him to guide us. Oh yeah, dont forget that the line represents that relationship we were talking about where each end is either you or the other person. Which line would you rather have as your relationship? the straight good looking one, or the bad one?
This part is what I've mostly been talking about with people. What if I'm moving to God but the other person is just standing still? This is the picture that I love the most because it shows where so many people are at. At first I struggled with this, because as one line to God shortens the relationship line becomes smaller. This is the revelation that I had that prompted this blog.
1) You will never be able to be close to the other person then they or you are to God.
2) The closer you are to God without them moving the smaller their angle becomes.
What does that mean? Well the smaller their angle the less in the relationship they are. When all three angles of a triangle are added up the sum is 180 degrees. God will always be 90 degrees(even though paint wouldnt allow for that in the pictures) idealy you want to then both be 45 degrees, however when one person is standing still and the other is moving closer to God the person standing still becomes smaller and the person moving becomes bigger. Essentially saying that if you're moving closer to God and the other person isn't, they're becoming a smaller part of your life. An attempt to hold onto them is slowing down your progress. Though pulling them along and helping them become closer to God maybe slowing you down a bit but its allowing you two to become closer to God together
