Warning: Just another ramblings about relationships as my World Race adventure comes to an end in 16 days!
I tried to write a full blog about this but couldn’t get the words to sound right. So here is a bullet point overview of my thought process.
- Here is something I said tonight: I cracked a joke saying, “I feel bad for the poor guy that asks me out on a date for the first time. My first response will probably be, ‘What are your intentions?’”
- It was a serious statement said as a joke, implying that I assume I’m going to scare off the poor guy by confronting him with what could potentially be a terrifying question.
- What I realized as I thought about it more: we live in a world where people avoid communicating that important question at all costs. And if they do talk about it, it’s vague and confusing.
- Why I think it’s not a bad idea to ask that question: I respect a man who knows his intentions and can clearly state them. No games. Even if the answer is just, “I’m interested in getting to know you better,” it would put me at ease because then I wouldn’t be trying to guess. We live in a world where no one talks about how they’re really feeling. If he can answer what his goal/hopes are in asking me out, I think it shows maturity.
- Why I know it’s not going to completely crush my chances of finding a husband if I blurt out that question: God has already orchestrated how and when I’ll meet my future husband. God already knows what I will and will not say to him when I meet him, and He already knows how the guy will respond. God knows that it’s an important question to me, so He will use it for good to reveal the type of person I am to my future husband. And I know that God has been working in his heart already preparing him for things like that, things that I know God has created him to love and respect in me.
- A movie reference to go along with this: if asking that question scares off guys, then he’s “Just Not That Into [Me].” And that’s perfectly ok. A friend once reminded me that if a guy is into me, he will pursue me at all costs. No matter how many times I don’t get the hint or throw him off. And I definitely want a guy like that.
Let’s be real. I don’t remember what it’s like to be asked out. I definitely don’t know what it feels like to be pursued by and have a relationship with a Godly man. And I sure as heck am terrified to see what dating is going to be like after the Race. But – God is good, there is grace in my bluntness that might create awkwardness (or save me from the wrong guy) and God has already got it all in the bag.
