The man’s job is to pursue. What if you are not worthy of pursuit?
Gary Black’s teaching this morning went past where it was ‘supposed to go’ and into some other interesting places. One of them was about our futures. And our future marriages, and what those will have to look like to be successful.
One of the things he said was that those of us who are strong women (and I put myself in this category) need not pursue the men. It is the MAN’S job to pursue the woman. If he doesn’t, then he isn’t man enough to deserve the woman. My only question through all of this is ‘What if the woman isn’t worthy of pursuit?’
I am not a pretty person. I am not tall or thin or generally attractive in any way. I am not the kind of woman a man wants to pursue. So where do I fall? It seems to be an accepted fact that men are first attracted to outer beauty, and then to the person within. But what happens when there is no outer shell with which to attract? Where does that leave me?
I know that some people will read this, and immediately rush to post a comment telling me I am beautiful. I don’t need platitudes and clichés. I’ve heard most of them before. I know I am beautiful. And I know how to do my hair and put on makeup to enhance that beauty. But still, I am not pretty. I am not the girl a man meets and thinks ‘I can’t wait to take her home to meet my parents.’
I am not the girl whose mate will ever be slapped on the back and told by his buddies “Wow. She is amazing. You give hope to the rest of us.” I give hope to no one. I am not the girl of anyone’s dreams. I am just not that girl.
