Loneliness. It is not a pretty word. No one likes to feel it. We try and suppress when we are feeling lonely. As a girl, we all dream of our one true guy. We wonder whether or not we have met that guy already. We wonder what we will feel like when we meet him. I know a girls mind are mysterious and complicated at the same time.
As an over thinker, I have wondered lately if I will ever find a guy. That is when someone showed me a video. This is a forty five minute video about what it looks like to become a person worth pursuing. When I heard that, I automatically got defensive (as I tend to do very much). I thought to myself, am I not worthy of being pursued? Am I not good enough? Why do I have to become worthy of pursuing when I thought I already was?
After I got past the defensive part, I let the video keep playing. The speaker started off saying that “One is a whole number”. It took me two times listening to the video to understand what that really meant. It means that we, as one person, are already complete. We do not need anyone else to complete us because we already are. He said “You are complete in Christ and Christ is the only one to complete you.” That is why one is a whole number.
We do not NEED anyone else. We want other, but we are complete already.The speaker keeps going, explaining more in detail what that means. He talks about how there are four c’s that make us become a person worth pursuing. The first is to be complete in Christ. Second, we need to be confident in Christ. Thirdly, we need to find our character in Christ. Lastly, we need to be content in Christ.
Lets back up to what it looks like to find our character in Christ as a woman. He does talk about men’s characteristics and you should really listen to the sermon yourself, but since I am a woman, that is what I took note on. There are seven characteristics of being a woman rooted in Christ. They are as follows: being a woman of faith, being a good worker, being attractive, being completely humble, having a servant spirit, being submissive and being an honorable woman. I thought to myself if I am any of these and if so which one(s). (That is another story for another time)
Lastly, we are supposed to be content in Christ. We need to be content where we are. We need to be content being single. Being married. Being heartbroken. Being a college student. Whatever it may be, be content with where you are. Instead of worrying so much what our relationship status is, we need to strive after Christ. The most attractive person is one who doesn’t need anyone but is filled completely with Christ. He closed with the following phrase, “Only healthy life giving people can have healthy life giving relationships”.
Yes, I am still going to struggle with not having a significant other, BUT I don’t need someone to complete me. I am complete in Christ. I am not saying that I do not need people in my life. I 100% do. I just don’t need them to complete me. I want a guy but the Lord is writing my love story and I just need to still back and let Him write it.
Thanks for reading all of this! Here is the link if you are intrigued to listen to any of it. You will not regret it!
