No, No, No
Just give my a little bit of time to practice saying no:
No
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO ( in a deep voice )
The answer is still No.
No, I don’t want to drive 3 hours to see you and then drive you around all day and then go bar hoping. No, I don’t want to let you borrow money, you still haven’t paid me back the 20 other times. No, I don’t have time to watch your dog for the week or make you cupcakes with peanut butter frosting. No, I wouldn’t like to go on another date or become your girlfriend.
“If you don’t come, then we won’t have enough people, and the ones who really want to go can’t.”
NO
Thanks for letting me practice saying no. It’s defiantly not a strength of mine. If I on the rare occasion say no, it still manages to turn around to a yes. In reality what’s so bad about saying yes? I would be letting someone down or being to selfish if I didn’t. Saying no comes along with feelings of guilt, worry, torment, and shame. Saying yes comes with feelings of resentment, rage, and stress. What’s up with that? yes and no’s both suck.
One word: Boundaries
I didn’t even know these things existed until I was told by a few people to read, “Boundaries”, by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. I think it’s my top favorite book of all times. Even better than “Twilight” or any romanic novel. I’m going to read this one until I have it memorized.
To sum up what I’ve learned. Saying yes can actually hurt the person more than me saying no.
Having the same problem when to say no and when yes is okay?
Read the book then start the process of changing a lifelong habit.
Ps: It’s month 10 and I just figured out how to post pictures on here. Got to spend a day at Angkor Wat!
