What its like to be single on the Race
Do you have a boyfriend? Are you married? Don’t you not want to have kids? These are some of the most common questions I’ve been asked the past 2-3 months. I’m aware that it can be a cultural thing to be married and to have children and a wonderful family as a first priority for a woman, but it’s not mine. Please hear me out, I want to have a husband with many wonderful children but I’m content with it not being now. Its definitely not the easiest road to walk through or down and its has taken me a while to be okay with this fact, sometimes I have to walk down that road again but it’s okay.
While on the race I had a few weeks of being overly eager and not patiently waiting for my future husband. I have a notebook where I write letters to my future husband. It has all my prayers, dreams to have with him, and promises to him in it, but it’s not just for him. When I get tired of waiting or doubtful that the Lord will provide I go and read what I wrote to him. This last time I went back I dare say I read some pretty wise words. “When you want homemade lemonade you have to wait for the lemon to be fully grown and ready before you can pick it…” Today I am growing and I am in the process of becoming the perfect person someone else wants/needs in their life, I will be picked by someone but I think its fair to say that were probably both not ready for each other just yet. Until then I am patiently and sometimes impatiently waiting.
This next year I’m just kind of going on Father-daughter dates with the Lord so he can show me how a Woman of the Lord should be treated. Not only that but the Lord has blessed me with ministry opportunities with how many times I’m asked theses questions. I can tell people what its like to be in the waiting, to be praying for a future dream, and what a God centered relationship should look like. It is very easy to feel like there is something wrong with us that we’re single, because I mean just look at us, were a 20 out of 10 easy but we cant let that effect us. We are called higher so our husbands must be, we can not settle for less than what he Lord has planned for us. We are going to receive all that and a bag of chips of a man! So don’t settle for the crumbs just because you get asked 13 times a day, “Where yo’ boyfriend at?”
