Ok, so I finally got around to writing this new blog! I want everyone to know, God really put it on my heart to write this special blog to all the single ladies out there. I want to start by saying YOU ARE WORTHY, YOU ARE LOVED, YOU ARE SOMEONE TO GOD because he truly does care. Even, when it doesn’t feel like it because I’ve been in that place before, he really does. You just have to have a willing open heart to hear Him. I always believed in God, but never understood what it was like to have a personal relationship with Him. I used to blame Him for my unhappiness that I was feeling on the inside. Shoot, I even straight up got angry with him at times. I never understood coming from a Catholic backgroud what it was like to have a personal relationship with God. Now, I’m not knocking the Catholic church just expressing my personal experience. I thought wait a min, how is a God that I don’t see, touch or hear an audible voice supposed to give me the Love that I was desiring from a MAN?? I just didn’t get it and that’s where I had it all wrong! While I was in my late twenties, my friend invited me to her Christian church and after I left, I had this overwhelming feeling I couldn’t describe, one I had never felt before. But, because it was new and uncomfortable I pushed it away. Plus, I was angry at God at the time so I went on living MY LIFE, doing things that made me feel good. Like most people say YOLO right? From the outside I looked happy and believe me I did live a great life at the time but, I felt empty on the inside and at times became depressed. God saw that and he knew I needed time to get where he wanted me to be. That’s how forgiving, patient, and loving he is, even after all those times I turned my back on Him, he always let me know he was STILL there.
Ever since I was a little girl i always wanted to be married and be a mother. I didn’t care about all those details of wedding preparation like most brides do like, the dress, flowers, venue etc,etc. So, I patiently waited to meet the right person and I thought for sure I’d meet someone by my mid 20’s, then my late 20’s came and went and I was still single. I started to question God, “Why God, I’m a good person aren’t I? But I see so and so getting engaged and she doesn’t even care about the blessing your giving her. You know I would never take such a precious gift like marriage for granted, right?” I waited a little bit more and never “heard’ back from God. Insert angry and rebellious phase living my YOLO life as I mentioned earlier. But, God had other plans, plans that I was unaware of and looking back now, I’m so thankful he took me through those challenging times because it has made my faith and trust in Him that much stronger. I’m in my mid 30″s now and still single, but I can now say with confidence that I am truly happy on in the inside because God gave me that JOY that only he can give about my singleness.
So, to all the single ladies out there please don’t settle on marrying someone or staying in a relationship because you’ve invested so much time into it and think you’ll never find anyone else. Because you WILL! When deep down you know he’s not the one. And, please don’t listen to all those people telling you you’re being too picky and you better find someone because your “clock” is ticking. Yes, people do really say insensitive things like that! The only timing you should settle on is God’s perfect timing. Because, you deserve to be treated with love and respect just like your heavenly Father treats you.
For all my married peeps or people in relationships that are reading this, I know life gets busy especially when people have children in the mix. But, take that time to reach out to your single friend and spend one on one quality time with them. Let them know that you’re there and you love them. If everyone showed love to someone a little more each new day, I promise you, your life will become much brighter.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1Corinthians 13:4-7
