I used to think that being single was the worst. I mean hey, it’s not the best. I am constantly the third-wheel. Most of my best friends are in relationships.. My sisters are married. I have like 2 single friends.
The Lies:
———————————————————————————————I haven’t had the best luck in the area of guys. Every guy that has been interested in me has been a little bit off and I’m wondering if this is as good as it’s going to get for me. Will I ever get what I want? This is just how dating is now. This is just how guys act. Maybe I’m being too picky.
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I went to church this past monday at a women’s gathering called The Grove. Every time I go to The Grove, It’s a mystery on what will happen. I like that.
A couple from Texas ended up speaking, Ben and Donna Stuart. Ben starts off with saying how do you maximize singleness. I’m sitting there like idk Ben.. your guess is as good as mine. I’m just trying to live through it best I can.
Then they just started nailing me right on the head. Every word was like they were talking just to me. Hitting every insecurity I have about myself.
Singleness is a gift. God trusts that we will take care of this gift and use it for God’s glory. The reason why some of us are single is so we have undistracted devotion to God. I know especially for me, I have a super tight relationship with God right now. One of my fears is that if I meet someone, I will be distracted from God. I’ll alter my dreams for theirs and I will begin to lose myself.
Ben and Donna pretty much destroyed all the lies I had begun to believe. Ben said that if you are young and single, live that life. Go out of the country. Go be on the mission field and I was like HEY THAT’S WHAT I’M DOING.
He just began knocking out the lies one by one. There is someone out there for me that is respectful and Godly. He will encourage my dreams instead of make his more important. He will run towards God with me.
I will not settle for someone.
There are good people out there.
It makes me so sad to even think about how discouraged we get when a relationship doesn’t work out. We start to believe so many lies that we aren’t good enough or it must have been something we did. When in reality, God has something better planned.
Keep faith my fellow single friends. We are in this season for a reason (lol that rhymed). Seriously though, find joy in this time. Do things that God has put on your heart and run with them. Run towards God. The person that you are supposed to end up with will be running the same way.
