One of the best blogs I have ever read was called:
The revelation in
that blog was that community lived out is like
A Mirror – A
perfect reflection back into your life.
Your relationships, interactions and conflicts
with the people in your
A month ago I was talking with Becky Miller and God
further.
In relationships I need to take the responsibility
but also for the problems as well.
Taking the onus off the others person’s faults or need to
change
but instead OWNING UP
to what I can control:
Myself.
My Thoughts.
My Reactions.
What I have realized that often in relationships I take a self-centered approach and
put the majority of
the focus on the things THEY
need to change for our relationship to
Concentrating on what
I can change
Using problems
and conflicts as a time for Self-Reflection.
But instead be proactive
on my side.
Not only will this bring about change in my life.
as well.
I can’t change them – Only
God Can – The quicker I release
control of that
And learn to live with grace
and patience – The Better!
What have I done with
this new revelation so far?
This past month I have sat down with each teammate one on
one. 
And asked questions like these:
What was your first
impression of me?
What is a weakness you
see in my life?
Have I offended you in
any way on this trip?
What’s something you
think needs to change for our relationship to improve?
Not only did I get great
feedback and reflection on my life.
open a lot of stuff that needed
to be talked about.
And as I have learned from past experience.
Information like that
can come in one of three ways:
1)
People never tell you.
(And it forever remains a blind spot
and relationship killer.)
2)
You find out because it blows up on you.
You ask people for it.
Invite people’s reflection on your life.
Take the Pressure off of others to change.
And learn to use all relationships as an opportunity for personal
growth.
