Currently the Lord is teaching me about the expectations I have placed on people, both present and future. I am realizing that I place expectations on people that are completely unfair or impossible for them to achieve. Most of the time when I get mad, frustrated, or disappointed on the Race it is because my expectations are not being met. I have begun to realize that I have attached expectations to everyone in my life, like my friends, my family. I have expected them to act a certain way, or do certain things, and in turn I am left disappointed and angry. They have done nothing wrong except to not meet my subconscious impossible expectations.
As joke I have said recently, my future husband must love the Lord, and must be taller than me. Simple right!! No expectations! Yeah, right!
As a young woman, it is only natural to think about my future husband and my future marriage. Even in the context of a Christ centered marriage that I will have one day, I find myself with all of these false expectations. Things like: my husband can fulfill every desire, give me many kids, lead me spiritually all the time, love me through what ever I am going through, love me at my worse, through sickness and heath, that he will romance me everyday, and that he will meet all my emotional needs. I am finding that I have all these expectations and more without even realizing it. I even found myself so excited that once I get married my husband and I will seek after the Lord together and everything will fall into place. Which is a good thing, don’t get me wrong, yet it is impossible. What I am finding in myself is that I have my future husband up on a peddle stool. I have put him in a place where only God needs to be.
God is truly opening my eyes and showing me that even when I fall in love with this wonderful, Godly man that follows the Lord, he will still be human, subject to sin and flesh. He will not be “my everything”. He can’t be, it’s not possible. He will let me down, he will fail, he will have struggles, he will not romance me everyday, he will not fulfill my every desire. We are humans, yet I felt that if he followed the Lord he would be perfect. False, we live in a fallen world.
I am blessed to say that I am finding “my everything.” A man that fulfills my every desire, leads me spiritually everyday, loves me through what ever I am going through, loves me at my worse, through sickness and heath, he romances me everyday, he meets all my emotional needs, and he forgives and loves me unconditionally. His name is JESUS! He is the relationship that everyone craves, the perfect husband. He pursues me everyday. He can give me the desires of my heart, because he knows everything about me. He wants to bless me, romance me everyday, take care of me when things get rough. With Him anything is possible!
So when that day comes, when I marry a wonderful TALL man of the Lord, I will be able to walk confidently in my relationship with Jesus first. Christ will still be the center of my life and I will not put unfair or impossible expectations on my husband. The Lord will always come first and I pray my husband’s relationship with God will come before me.
The Lord your Maker is your husband, the Lord Almighty is his name. Isaiah 54:5
