the struggle for love

there is a desire that radiates to our core to be loved. to love. to be known. and to know.

after watching which may or may not have been a boot legged copy of Blue Valentine.  i was overwhelmed with the overall theme and struggle for love.

the two main characters were on the brink of divorce. through flash backs and the present we learn about their relationship. we see the love, the heart break, the heart ache and other strong emotions. we see them trying to make the relationship work with all that they have. we see them fight and surrender to the plague of love.

in the end, however, there is not a happy ending. i wont spoil the ending for any of you, who so choose to see this brilliant film. but the ending leaves you with an overwhelming sense and heart ache for the lonely couple, leaving me with the reality that we are all searching for love.

we are all searching for wholeness, completeness,and fulfillment.  and most of us are looking in all the wrong places for that.

where are you searching and struggling for love?

are you looking to your spouse, your boy/girl friend, your friends, your family or any other distraction that comes in your way?  

so often we get caught up in struggling for love that we miss out on the truth and our blinded to the one who will ultimately satisfy.

i so badly wanted to get in touch with the two stars in this film and speak the truth into their lives that no matter how much they love each other or however good their marriage could be it will never be enough.

thats the thing about this world, the best relationship, the best job or travel will never be enough.  it will never fully satisfy our searching, aching hearts.

but take heart my fellow strugglers, because there is hope. 

there is hope for fulfillment, love and wholeness.

we no longer have to search out for love on our own but surrender to the one who can ultimately satisfy and love us completely.

the one whom i speak is of course, Jesus. God sent his only son for us, so that we may have life. that we sinners and searchers of love could be made whole, new and spotless.  in jesus we can stop searching because we have found the one who will truly love our hearts. 

there is no struggle of love once we are found and known by jesus.  

we might still ache for the things of this world and our eyes still drift from jesus and search for love in all the wrong places but the struggle is truly over. 

jesus has come so that we may know love, that we may be known. our author and creator yearns to love us, yearns to know us and for us to know him.

he aches for us. what a blessing that is.

yes i still fail. yes i still look to the world for fulfillment but in the end i know that i am loved by the i am. i am loved by jesus, my savior.

i want to tell that to the blue valentine couple. i want to tell that to you.

take heart that in the midst of your struggle for love, there is hope. there is love and wholeness found in the one who aches and loves you the best, the i am, jesus. 

so thank you blue valentine, for showing the ache that lives deep within each of us, the eternal struggle for love.

but thank you jesus for your complete love, acceptance and putting an end to the struggle for love.