Men are handicapped. That is the truth that I have believed for the past 4 and a half years. Yes there are exceptions, but over time I have found that 9/10 men are in fact handicapped. Althought I am sure they would like to be known as handicapable. For the most part, the only thing I would say they are capable at doing is being arrogant a-holes. Correction, a-hole is something I am not known for using so more appropriately would be is a poohface. Yes, that is more of a Michelle saying.
I know what you're thinking. This girl has some male issues, or daddy issues. That very well could be true. Does it change things all that much anyway? Most men in society today just want to hit 'it' then quit it. All around the world I have found this to be a true and factual statement. Men don't stand up for women. They do however stand up for themselves. Their personal wants and 'needs', but once those things are met they peace the heck out.
(Again, please note that there are men who do not fit this type of man. If they could be called men. I could probably bet that most men reading this likely do not fit this)
Currently I am living in Honduras and I have found that most of their facts state that men will claim children are not theirs, leave as soon as kids are born,or just leave women after they have had their fill. Sounds quite similiar to North America. The world we have created is a fatherless world. A world that has fought so hard for women, but that has somehow stripped a man of who he was created to be.
So did we do this to ourselves? As women have we torn men down so much that we have handicapped them and have made them give up. That they are now in a survivor mode that makes them get all they need, or think they need, and then they leave from insecurities.
Whether that insecurity is him not being loved for whom he is. From not being called up to the great leader that he really is, but rather being pulled at and told that he's not needed. That he's not good enough. Because truth be told we (us women) are constantly shouting it from rooftops that we can do it (whatever it is) on our own.
The truth is we (us women) are able to do many things, but by not allowing a man to be a man we have taken away his manhood. We have altered how God intended for man to take care of women, his wife, his family and the church.
If we are to build up a man in the way that he should be built up than how beautiful would the world look. If we could love, serve and allow men to serve I believe that in itself would change the world and make it more of what God intended it to look like.
It wouldn't be perfect but it may look something like Ephesians 5:22-33 looks like.
We might find that as we encourage a man that children will find respect for a father, that women would respect men more, and men would have less insecurity. Which would give them a beautiful freedom to be the men that God has created them to be.
A girl, Jaime Jo, on my squad mentioned one night, "Most often when women are by themselves in the night and see a figure of a man coming towards them, they/we get scared. But how amazing would it be that because of men stepping into manhood that if a woman was by herself and saw a figure of a man that she would feel relieved and safe."
How incredible would that be if it were true? My hope and my heart is that this blog will encourage you to love the men around you so fiercely that change is inevitable. That they become the great leaders they truly are.
