This is a guest post from Monica Gerges…writer of the blog Reflective Rambling.
“I wrote this letter for every girl – the ones I know and the ones I don’t. If you know somebody who needs to hear this, please, send this their way. Every girl needs to know she’s beautiful.”
Dear Girl,
This letter is written directly for you. Yes, you.
You, the girl who looks in the mirror and finds 10 flaws before finding the slightest hint of something beautiful.
You, the girl who looks at her body and heaves a heavy sigh of disappointment.
You, the girl who wonders if anyone will notice her today.
You, the girl who won’t leave the house without makeup because she feels insufficient without it.
You, the girl who counts every calorie, kills it on the treadmill and hops right onto the scale.
You, the girl who wonders if getting out of bed in the morning is worth it.
You, the girl who fronts like she’s secure.
You, the girl who bases her confidence on compliments.
You, the girl props up her cleavage, takes a photo, and secretly waits for people to like it.
You, the girl who does all of these things because she doesn’t feel beautiful. She doesn’t feel lovely. She doesn’t feel desired. She doesn’t feel good enough. She doesn’t feel like she matters. She doesn’t feel like people care.
You’ve broken my heart.
My heart breaks for you, girl, because there’s so much you’re missing. There’s so much you don’t see… So much you don’t understand…
If only you’d listen…
You’re beautiful. I’m not just saying that. You’re really beautiful.
Your smile could light up a room. Your personality shines and your warmth is contagious.
Your mind is beautiful. Your thoughts. Your ideas. Your wishes. Your dreams. Your aspirations. Your intellect. Beautiful.
Believe in them. Believe that your thoughts are worth expressing. Your ideas and dreams and aspirations are worth fighting for. They’re you. They’re who you desire to be. They’re inspiring.
Chase them!
Don’t put all of your effort into trying to be someone you’re not. Don’t set idols and strive to look like them. Don’t make your aspirations to be someone else’s definition of beauty – aspire to be your own definition.
It’s okay to want to feel beautiful. It’s okay to want to be desired or pursued. But, you should know…
You’re not beautiful because others say you are. You’re not beautiful because guys want you. You’re not beautiful because your body meets everybody’s set standards. You’re beautiful because God made you in His image.
You are beautiful because your heart has an amazing capacity to love. You are beautiful because your personality radiates through the twinkle in your eyes and that beautiful smile. Your beauty emanates from within your spirit. Who you are shines and that’s how beautiful you are.
You are beautiful and well worth pursuing. You are worth more than to put yourself out there for some guy to use, just so you can hear him say you’re beautiful and that he loves you. You’re worth more than to settle for any man to treat you for less than what you’re worth. You are worth more than depending on someone else to define you, to mold you, to tell you who you are.
You don’t need to suck in your stomach or show off your cleavage just to feel attractive or sought after. You’re so much more than that.
You’re somebody’s daughter. Somebody’s sister. Somebody’s wife. Somebody’s girlfriend. Somebody’s mother. Somebody’s friend. Somebody’s I-can’t-live-without-you.
You matter! You’re an inspiration to those around you. They love you; they cherish you; they need you.
You are loved by so many.
If only you would let them love you.
Do you know how many people long to tell you that you’re beautiful? Do you know how many people tell you, yet you ignore them? If only you would let people love you – those who want nothing in return other than to see you smile from the inside out. Those people are there, I promise, and they’re just waiting for you to let them in. Won’t you?
You’re beautiful, and I love you, and I don’t want anything in return. I just want this letter to reach places in your heart that you’ve been closing off for so long. I want you to know that you are loved and sought after and cared for. I never want you to feel alone – I want to be there for you. I want to support you. I want to encourage you.
Just because you’re delicate doesn’t mean you’re weak. Just because you’re afraid doesn’t make you a victim. Just because you’re young doesn’t make you incapable of achieving far beyond your wildest dreams.
You are strong. You’ve made it this far and you’re going to go even further. You’ve faced hardship. You’ve been hurt. You’ve cried. You’ve ached. You’ve gone through hell and high water and you made it. You are stronger than whatever comes your way.
Don’t let any circumstances get in your way and don’t let anybody tell you otherwise.
Dear girl, YOU are beautiful.
