This month in Nsoko I’ve been living with 21 other women. We have a great amount of space for us, enough showers and bathrooms. It’s bliss.

But this isn’t the first time I’ve had to be around this many women.

In fact I’ve been around more!.

At the end of August 2003 I started college. It’s been ten years. I can’t really believe it.

My college experience started with music camp. A crazy week of games, singing, and exhaustion. It was how I always started out my college years.

 

For 4 years every Monday, Wednesday, Friday during the school year I would find myself smack dab in the middle of a group of 55 talented, hilarious women and our amazing choir director Joni. The friendship I made because of the music department at VU are some of the ones that I miss the most. They are the top numbers on my speed dial, the faces that pepper the photos on my facebook, the memories that bring me more joy than I can describe.

 

So this one? It's not about the race. It's about my life.

 

this one? It’s for my girls.

 

To you ladies

I miss you dearly

I remember those first few

Rehearsals in M1

Not knowing quite what as going on

 

And slowly as time went on

Wondering

Why exactly people

Were so sad to get placed in

The dub-c

 

It’s was without a doubt

The best thing

To happen to us at VU

 

I remember Fantasias

[save me a ticket- I should be home]

And knitting

And sarcastic comments

And how that bonded all of our friendships

A little more

 

I remember choir tour

And how sitting next to each other

On that bus

Is the moment WE became friends

 

Gaining strength

Confidence

Ownership

Over what was the Dub-C

 

I remember slowly moving

Up the class rankings

And having those

Upperclassmen

We loved so dearly leave

 

And then we became the leadership

The officers

And we longed

So much for those newbies

To have the experience

 

To feel the love, the hilarity

The friendship that we had

 

I remember that meeting

In the office

We had an agenda

We had a love

AND

We had to get back to work

 

And then last music camp

6 years ago

Everything was a little different

And a bit more amazingly awesome

 

We treasured it all

I treasured leading you all.

Standing side by side as that

Season of our lives left us

 

Now some of you

[most of you]

are married

getting married

having babies

careers

[and you know, I’m somewhere on the other side of the globe]

 

You are my women

[Dub-C members and honorary]

I don’t know what I’d do

if you weren’t my people

If you weren’t in all my memories

 

You mean the world to me.

I can’t wait to see you again.

To maybe sit at Fantasia with you

[and text Joni while she’s on stage]

To have a family dinner

And laugh and talk

 

I miss you all so much this morning

As I sit on a foam mattress

On a cement floor in Swazi

 

Keep changing the world ladies

You do it so well

I know this:

Because you’ve changed me.