SAYING I DO
Are you married?
Why not?
Why are you still single?
If I was given 10 cents for every time I was asked those questions I would be a millionaire. Most of the time I can laugh it off and respond with “I haven’t found the right one yet.” But this time it was different.
I’ve dated in the past, but neither one proved to be worth of me. That sounds harsh but it’s true.
I know where my identity lies and where my worth is found.
Ladies you are worth their undivided attention, if you have to question their loyalty to you; break up with them. And I if you are in a committed relationship, do not take it for granted. Repeat each other, care for each other but most importantly let your relationship be glorifying to God.
Here in Ghana, ladies are given away for marriage at the age of 21, regardless of them even know the guy. When I heard that today I was shocked. They get married to a stranger, and just have to be okay with it.
In the states, when people ask me “Why are you single?”, my usual response is my expectations are too high” but after spending 6 months outside of America, I’ve come to understand they are not too high. I’m just looking for a man who fear God, who will seek Him all his life and someone who will love me as Christ loves the church. It really isent too much to as, but society in America gives our men different standard they feel they are expected to reach, and fearing God just isent on their agenda anymore. If you do have a God fearing man, hold him close.
And too all of my single ladies,
Please don’t wait to start life until you’ve found “the one”
Please don’t change any quirks, giggles, likes or dislikes for a man
Learn to be content in whatever season the Lord has to in.
Let Him pursue you. It’s Biblical.
So until the day comes, wake up each day and chase your dreams.
When you reach them, make even bigger dreams.
Because there is no certain timeline we are promised a husband, and what kind of life would it be if your constant mission was to find someone to marry. If you are called to married life, then waiting will be completely and utterly worth it.
So when ? How do I know he’s the right one? Unfortunately there isn’t a perfect answer, but in regards to if he’s the right one, pray for a confident yes.
The waiting season is hard, trust me, I’ve been in it for over 5 years, especially during wedding season. But after learning the different customs of these countries, being single and choosing your husband is such a privilege.
Some advice I was given today, I’ll share with you..
“Find a man who is God fearing, who respects you and cares for you. Disregard is he is handsome or rich, because one day that will go away, just make sure he is God fearing”‘
So what exactly does God fearing mean?
It’s seeking the Lord for direction in life, being a man that reflects the Word, willing to submit to the authority, actively seeking growth as a child of God. It means to love God, trust Him and follow him with all you are; to trust Him to be bigger than any circumstance youmay face through life.
So while I wait…
I do want to honor my God.
I do want to chase my dreams.
I do want to become independent.
I do want to forgive as easy as Jesus.
I do want to have an unshakeable faith.
I do want to pursue God with my entire heart.
I do want to be a servant to those around me.
I do want to experience all that God has for me.
I do want to be grounded in my identity in Christ.
I do want people to see God’s light shining through me.
So who do you desire to be in this season?
Because our identity does not lay in the hands of our boyfriends, fiancées or husbands.
Regardless of what season of life you are in, don’t settle because you are worth pursuing.
To the woman reading this, I hope you re-evaluate what season you are in, it’s easy to get lost in the fairytale stories of others and forgot how I can be working on myself. Ask your self this, who are you pursuing and why?
For the men, what kind of man are you? Are you God fearing, a spiritual leader, bold, dependable, truthful, humble, faithful, patient, generous, selfless, loving, protective..who are you?
I’m challenging you to live with purpose this season, be content in your circumstance and choose to glorify God in all that you do.
Will you join me in this season by saying I do ?
