There are men of God out there ladies

Like most girls my age before coming on the race I had warped version of what a godly man looks like. I had always had more guy friends than girlfriends just because there was less drama. I was the girl who would confide in one man and become so close to him that I would forget about other people in my life. Now being this girl also met I had wounds from men that I didn’t even know were there. 

On the way to training camp a year ago I rode to GA with two women from my squad. Of course you get women together and the topic of boys comes up (especially when you are in your early to mid-twenties and single). As I sat in the car and listened to them talk about boys and add my input here and there about my past experiences, I knew I wanted a season that was not surrounded by men. It’s a really good thing Jesus knows what is better for us than we do.

Once arriving at training camp I surrounded myself with the women. I sat at tables for meal times with only women trying my best to avoid the men at all cost. I came to training camp with a huge tent, and two backpacks, we had to move our stuff a lot which was quite difficult for me to carry everything.  I cannot count how many times one of the men from my squad would ask to help me carry something, even after I assured them I could handle it myself.  I didn’t know how to let them help me, let alone be friends with them when I had my mind set that I didn’t want or need men around.

When it came time to announce teams and my team leader was a male and I was placed on a co-ed team I would be lying if I told you I wasn’t a bit upset and scared of the idea. Those men know how I felt being placed with them, I was completely honest and explained there were still fresh wounds and I didn’t know how to be around men right now.  However from that moment on I knew that I had to accept the fact that I was going to be going on a journey with what started out to be 11 brothers.

Well that was a year ago. Since being on this 11 month journey I have seen what it looks like to be a man of God, and let me tell you ladies we definitely have a warped version in our society of what that looks like. Just because a guy goes to church on Sunday morning and says the right things does not make him the right man for you. If he is not guarding your heart with his actions and words then he is not the man for you. Just because he gets along with your family, and is at your house more than his own does not mean he is the man for you. I know it all seems perfect and right, I have been there, but if feelings are getting more involved on one side than on the other something needs to change. Men of God are not going to lead you on; they are not going to say all the right things just because they think it is what you want to hear.

I now know the characteristics that men have when they are following the Lord. These 11 months have brought up issues I didn’t think would come up, and my brothers have walked right there beside me. I have learned far more from the men I have been placed with this year than I could have ever learned being with all women. The A-squad men have shown me what it looks like to have a healthy brother/sister relationship.
I am the only woman on the squad who has been with men ever month except for manistry.  I’m pretty sure that is because daddy wanted to show me what it looks like to know a man of god. Let me assure you ladies they exist there are men out there who follow the Lord and have God at the center of their life.

 I am leaving this race with 8 brothers who have loved me and changed my view on men. These men are men of God. These men have become my brothers, and on travel days when one of my brothers asks to help me I’m more than great full to say yes, because I know now it’s there way of caring and loving on their sister. I know going back to the states that if I needed anything I could call any one of these brothers and they would speak truth and help me anyway they could. These men have set a new standard and I’m not going back to my old standard when returning home. My husband the man the lord has created just for me will be a Godly man because now I know what that looks like.

A-Squad men during manistry