One of the things that each World Race team does on the daily is have a team time. Team time is when your team comes together at a certain time each day to debrief the day, share thoughts and feelings, get closer together, give feedback, have fun, etc.
This past month, my team decided to try to do it a bit differently than month one and allow each person on our team to take charge of one team time each week. For example, my team time was yesterday and what I did was create a game that was played before hand in order to get away from the heaviness of ministry and then I took my team to a American style diner for dinner. Another example is my teammate Rebekah deciding that for team time on Tuesday we’re going to have Super Feedback. This means that we each have to give one positive and one constructive feedback to each member of our team.
Last week, my teammate Mariah brought our squad-mate Brooke to our team time and asked her to talk about relationships and more specifically about boundaries.
Now, you may have boundaries in place and so this blog may not affect you at all, but for myself, boundaries has never rocked my thought process more. Through Brooke’s conversation with us, I learned that I have a lot of areas where I lack boundaries. I learned that boundaries are important in more than just your romantic relationships but in every relationship you have. They’re important in your family relationships, your same-sex friendships and your opposite-sex friendships. I also learned why creating boundaries for myself is so hard.
The book Boundaries by Henry Cloud gives a great Christian perspective on boundaries, why we have boundary problems and how to instill boundaries into our lives and relationships with others. This book has definitely changed my perspective and given me a desire to implement boundaries into my life and also a passion to respect the boundaries of others. I definitely recommend people read this book because it will change you and grow you.
Don’t be afraid of the change or growth that comes with this book though because ultimately, both of them are good. I will say that this book frustrates me at times. I have seen where in my past I have lacked boundaries and that’s taken it’s toll. So yeah, it can be frustrating as you learn things about yourself and why you’ve done things out of a lack of boundaries, but ultimately it’s so good to know that now then have to keep going through the same things over and over again.
So in regards to my title “Boundaries…. Who Needs Them Anyways?” my answer is everyone needs them. Everyone needs to have boundaries and everyone needs to respect the boundaries of others.
If you’d like to discuss boundaries or why I am so passionate about them, feel free to email me and ask questions. I’d be glad to share 🙂
Till Next Time,
Kara Faber
