Men fight for brotherhood. Women don’t.
What is sisterhood?
It’s such a foreign word that rolls off my tongue. It makes me both angry and sad that this is the case.
Growing up I was a tomboy, and would way rather spend my time with guys instead of girls. To me, girls were mean, catty, gossiped, and stabbed each other in the back.
I didn’t want anything to do with that.
In three different relationships I was in over the years, my ex boyfriend ended up with one of my best friends or a good friend of mine. Oh, and they’re all still together to this day.
Ouch.
My trust in women slowly started to fade. What did sisterhood mean?
It came to a head in college when my trust in women was completely shattered. I was in a small group and I poured my heart and soul into that group. I thought I was becoming a part of a sisterhood.
Boy was I wrong.
Long story short, I was betrayed and my trust was gone. Let’s just say it’s the first time in three years that I’ve ever considered sharing and trusting women again on the level that I did back in the day.
It scared the living daylights out of me.
It wasn’t until debrief, that I truly chose to trust all the women on my team. During debrief, we all got vulnerable. And let me tell you, it wasn’t easy. Sharing the deepest and darkest parts of your life, your insecurities, your past hurts, your current struggles… it takes a certain amount of strength and courage.
When we started sharing, I felt like I was going to throw up, which was an obvious sign that I was meant to share about myself. I shared the first night and thought I was off the hook the second night when we got vulnerable again.
Boy was I wrong.
The second night it was only us women, and God encouraged me to share one more time about a completely different topic that women can relate to. In that moment, I pretty much entrusted the women on my team with the real me.
It was the scariest, most freeing thing ever.
I want to fight for sisterhood.
I want to form those bonds and build that trust.
I refuse to live under the lie that women can’t be trusted.
There are many lies that myself and women in general lie under, and the women on our squad want to break those chains and believe in the truth that will set us free.
As women of J squad, the Lord says, “We have purpose. We are warriors. We are worthy. We are beautiful. We are loved. We are special. We are redeemed. We are enough.”
Therefore, we are what the Lord says WE ARE.
