Ladies and gentlemen, we have a problem.
By we, I mean the church.
Not the brick and mortor church but the real one.
We have a crisis of the young church settling in relationship after relationship for Cookie Cutter Ken and Bible Study Barbie.
Allow me to elaborate…
The young women of God who make up the majority of the young church are waiting to be pursued by mighty men of God. They desire a partnership with someone who has the courage of Joshua, the tenacity of Jacob and the devotion and unshakable affirmation of Joseph.
The problem is, it’s not about waiting at all. You don’t meet the man of your dreams while waiting for take off at your launch site; you meet him when you’re BOTH in orbit chasing the adventure of faith and purpose that is your inheritience, for the face of God Himself.
We are not witness to a generation of women created to wait for anything or anyone. Women of God are created to stand and fight the good fight for the kingdom of Heaven just as men are. They are as strong as Esther, as faithful and courageous as Mary and as worthy of devoted pursuit as Rachel.
Somewhere along the way the message was relayed that in order to be completed for service in the kingdom and adventure on this side of Heaven, you need a man.
This, is complete and unadulterated crap.
It is only The Lord who commissions you for your purpose. A Godly man will not only recognize your anointing and giftings but support you in pursuing His heart-stopping plans for you. God is after all, your intended first love.
The only waiting you should be doing, ladies, is waiting on The Lord.
I know its easy for a man to say these things.
After all, we men don’t deal with the same pressures and expectations of being romantically “pursued”. And not all men who simply claim the cross are deserving of your attention.
But take heart that these words aren’t just a hollow “cheer up” from an overly protective brother to my dynamic sisters. It’s an outright guarentee that the kind of man you WANT pursuing you is one who is a lot more than just “better than the last guy” or “really nice”.
You won’t have to beg him to fight for you because he will never have stopped.
You won’t have to wonder how he feels about you because his actions will show it.
You won’t have to ask him to be led spiritually because he will already be a spiritual leader.
You won’t need to vie for priority over his profession because it will never compete with your place in his heart.
You won’t have to worry about his parents or friends influence on his life because the only one guiding him will be the Spirit of The Lord.
Other women who can’t help but compare themselves to others out of insecurity won’t question why you’re so lucky because they’ll see the type of woman you are and just the type of man you fit with.
Wait no… They WILL question it but that’s their problem…
When a Godly man does come along and pursue you like you deserve, you won’t think he seems too good to be true because God only wants you with a man who perpetually strives moment by moment to look more like Christ than he does himself.
Is this a lofty expectation? Yup!
Do you deserve anything less? Nope!
I need a moment to address the older generations:
PLEASE stop hounding young women in the church about why they aren’t with someone or trying to give them hollow strategies to get “noticed” by guys. It’s actually a GOOD thing that a woman isn’t just ready and willing at all times to be snatched up by some dude with a guitar and a flannel shirt who still has no clue what he actually wants.
This is not the kind of man who will fulfill your God given desires to be loved as Christ loves the church. You’ll end up thinking “ordinary” is all there is and crazy love quickly turns to constant routine, robbing you of the kind of relationship God always intended for His princess.
And guess what??? Any guy who doesn’t recognize how wonderfully a woman is made and how extraordinary they are doesn’t deserve the chance to fight for their heart.
AND THAT IS OKAY!!!!
Instead, push the boys in the church to MAN UP and seek worthy women to invest in instead of searching for a perfect Bible Study Barbie who never existed in the first place.
A man with a brain, discernment and any sense of self confidence and assurance in his own purpose doesn’t want a doll to attach to his arms and insert into photographs for the next 60 years; he wants a woman who is in relentless pursuit of the same things he is.
The easy part about this ladies is that all you need to do, is be exactly who God created you to be. His assured, obedient, courageous and Spirit-led daughter.
That is truly intoxicating to a mighty man of God.
Lord, give your girls a blessed assurance that if they simply “do them” and follow Your earth-shattering will for their lives they will collide with a love so strong and unbreakable it will blow their minds from the day he says “hello” to the day they both say “I do” and beyond.
Williams, out.
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Special thanks to the incomperable women of P-Squad for “doing you” and striving to be who you were always meant to be.
