I've heard it said too many times…
"I'm a LOVER not a FIGHTER."
… honestly this is such backwards thinking!!!!
Guys say it because on the surface it sounds right. This is perfectly fine if
you are desiring a surface relationship with a shallow man. Then by all means
swim after it hook, line, and sink her.(Yes I know it's sinker, but sink her
seemed more appropriate.) Go ahead "drowned yourself" in his LOVE! A LOVER won't
swim to the scary depths with/ for you!
I'm learning, with each passing year, and heartbreak, what Godly qualities look
like in a man. As my "Love Story" with Him (GOD) unfolds I see what a real man is and
what I deserve!
GOD is first and foremost a FIGHTER. He pursues us relentlessly. He doesn't
flatter or compliment us. He shows his interest through being helpful,
available, and offering guidance. He is always honest … even brutally honest.
He is patient with our hearts. Nothing we do or don't do will change His
devotion. He will only, and always, give us His undivided best.
BIBLE CHECK
But? 1 Corinthians 13 says … Love is the greatest? …Yes, and true LOVE never
fails. In order for LOVE to never fail (or be pure and real) it has to be fought
for!
Currently In A Relationship or Missing Someone?
Ask yourselves Girls…
Is he fighting for you?…Or Are you fighting for him?
Are you spending time analyzing and thinking about him, the things he says, and
the things he does? Are you praying, hoping, and dreaming about him? Are you
sharing all the deepest parts of yourself with him? Desiring to please him and
make him happy?
STOP IT!
This is YOUR backward thinking!
Now go back and reread the last paragraph but capitalize every Him or He! Now
your heart and mind are in the right place!
(Deuteronomy 6:5 , Psalm 37: 4)
When a guy really loves a girl … He will fight for and pursue you relentlessly
… He will love you almost as much as God. He will love you even more when he
sees how focussed and singly dependent on God you are. You won't have to do
anything! Let me repeat this …
YOU WONT HAVE TO DO ANYTHING!!
(This picture melts my heart!!!)
He will be on
his knees pleading (and praying) for you. He will do anything and everything to convince
you of your worth to him. God designed men to be FIGHTERS. So girls … Be a
challenge! Say "No!" to any compromises! Keep your focus on being "God's Girl", and following His plans. This will make you even more attractive to Godly Men (FIGHTERS.)
Most important virtue of LOVE and knowing it's TRUE …
Patience is a fruit of the spirit. Remember this … Because a guy with the
wrong intentions will give up. However a Godly man, in LOVE, will endure to win
your heart and keep it. Most men are lazy, because we as women aren't expecting
and requiring them to FIGHT. We are failing ourselves, and our men, of being the
strong Godly men they are called to be.
TRUTH BOMB QOUTE:
"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"
(God gave us commands to protect us … not torture us!)
Statistics Show the Bible is RIght:
A Columbia University study cited in New Woman magazine that "only 26% of women surveyed and a scant 19% of the men married the person with whom they were cohabiting." A more comprehensive National Survey of Families and Households, based on interviews with 13,000 people, concluded, "About 40% of cohabiting unions in the U.S. break up without the couple getting married." One of the reasons may be that those who cohabit drift from one partner to another in search of the 'right' person. The average cohabitant has several partners in a lifetime. Living together before getting married increases your chance for a divorce!
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FAVORITE QOUTE :
"A girl should be so in love with God, that a guy has to find Him, to get to her!"
(Deuteronomy 6:5 & Jeremiah 29:11)
Which Guy Do You Want? Here is a comparison …
FIGHTERS: Are strong and convicted. They carry loyalty and endurance. They are
Men of God, blessed daily, with His armor. (Ephesians 6: 10-11) They Possess Godly wisdom, knowing eachday will bring battles. They desire victory and hate loosing. They know that loosing is not an option because God is their captain. They only fear not following His commands because this most certainly means death! They offersecurity and stability! Logical with high morals!
FIGHTERS MOTTOS: Rather die with honor! If it will help I'll do it! There is no time like the present! Speaks in truth … What does she need to hear? Guards your heart! Nothing good comes easy. Sees challenge as proof of good to come. Wants to be different an example for others. Wants to change lives. Always offers appreciation and praise! Has time! fills your life with memories and surprises. Has expectations! When things get hard …they suit up … Fight!
FIGHTERS SHOW AFFECTION: By encouraging your interests (gifts), serving your needs, being acountable and available. They support you!
LOVERS MOTTOS : Rather live a happy life! If it feels good do it! There is always tomorrow! Speaks to control … What do I want her to hear? Owns your Heart! Nothing difficult can lead to good. Sees challenge as sign to go another way. Wants to conform or excel to others. Wants to touch lives. The grass is always greener on the other side. Always has advice and goals. Has Ideas. Fills your life with promises, hopes, and dreams! When things get hard … They look to escape … flight!
LOVERS SHOW AFFECTION: By flattering you (beautiful, sexy) Shairing their dreams, and making you laugh. They need you!
somethings in that list that made you think "I want that too!" This is how the
enemy entices you… With EMOTION (Worldly fleeting desires.)
The FIGHTER posses all Godly traits that lead to TRUE lasting LOVE!
I'm not saying be deceitful or play hard to get …. I'm saying "GUARD YOUR
HEART" If you don't … God will (HEART BREAK! Matthew 7:6) Make a guy work and FIGHT (Spiritually & Emotionally) for you!
you! Be consumed with Gods path for you! Let him find you and then FIGHT to be a priority in
If you cant TRUST GOD, who can you TRUST?
Trust God with your heart! Trust God to bring the right man into your life!
Trust that every man that gives up or quits was not for you! Trust that God is
fighting for your hearts happiness. Trust that God has the perfect mate for you.
He will bless you and your future husband through the greatest fruit of the
spirit … PATIENCE!
Don't let any man drag your heart along. A guy knows almost immediately if he
wants to marry you. God will speak to his heart. When God does speak a man won't
be able to wait (unless you need him too.) If your waiting for him (especially more than 18 months) … The relationship is not from God! Any excuse he gives, is just that, an excuse
(career, money etc) to just keep you around. In this senario … you are doing
everything (fighting, practicing patience) and not focussing on God.
(I dont find this cute, funny, or romantic … And neither does God the author of LOVE!)
I've been the girl described in the last paragraph and I've spent too many years
being the man and the woman in the relationship. Providing a very comfortable
resting place for all my LOVERS. I am now turning 37 and I've never been
married. I pray my new spiritual wisdom will encourage other girls towards God
and the FIGHTER of their dreams.
Girls we have been so blessed by God. The guy needs to FIGHT and be PATIENT with
us. All we have to do is be PATIENT with God's timing.
Two Godly (patient) people will always find a 1 Corinthians 13 LOVE … he
promises us this! Patience is the hardest fruit of the spirit to embody. It is
the first (most important) spirit listed in this bible passage. It requires a
lot of strength, wisdom, and faith … Therefore only FIGHTERS will find real
GODLY LOVE!
I recommend reading these …
EVERYONE – "when God writes your love story"
GIRLS – "Authentic Beauty" – Leslie Ludy
GUYS – "God's Gift To Women" – Eric Ludy
A PROVERBS 31 WOMAN DESERVES A JOB 31 MAN! 🙂
