This blog has been a long time coming. Finally I have decided to put it
into words and hopefully help people with an issue which is unfortunately
all too real on the world race. For those of you not on the world race, it
is good for you to and can be applied in life outside the world race.
Relationships are a funny thing. Our Father God has given us very clear and
precise instructions on how relationships were designed to work in His
perfect plan and He wrote them down to give us an instruction manual; the
Bible. One of the few things I actually commend the world race for is them
asking each of the participants to make the covenant at time of acceptance
to not start any new romantic relationships until you are no longer on the
mission field. This is to attempt to focus each persons heart on the Lord
and not on flesh.
But Gods design goes so far beyond romantic relationships and has an
existence in every relationship. Think of your relationship with anyone you
are blood related too. Generally you have those peoples best interest at
heart when interacting with them. The idea of causing them to stumble over
their sinful past doesn’t usually cross your mind because it isn’t loving.
Even if you are very close to your family, there are still things about
them you don’t know. Yet because they are family, you don’t have to know
everything to know what they need. So if you were to truly believe in the
family of God and believe each and every person is your brother and sister
in Christ, why would you treat those relationships any different? You
should love them in the way which causes them to know God the most, protect
them every way God has given you the ability to, serve them with the love
of Christ and care for their heart like it were your own.
There is another side to this blog though. There is the seemingly awkward
subject of romantic relationships. To put it simply, dating is dumb, at
least our version of it in modern times. Essentially it is shopping for
people. If nothing else, it is twisted simply by moral standards. However,
our version of dating defies several laws of relationships set forth by
God. It is in Gods design for man to labour for the earth from which we
were made and to desire for a woman whom was created from a piece of our
body. More simply, because woman was made from a piece of man, she is what
restores us to wholeness. It is also in Gods design for woman to desire to
return to man because she has only a piece of him and is completed through
him. For all you single men and woman out there, this does not mean God
does not call people to be single. Look it up, its biblical (1 Corinthians
7:25-28, 32-35).
All this being said, Gods design is not for failed relationships to cause
pain or hurt. God calls us all to prepare one another for the the
relationship He has chosen for us to enter a covenant with Him in.
Therefore, when leaving a relationship the other person involved should be
left better than when the relationship started. Each person should be more
prepared to be a Godly husband or wife, each person should know the Lord
more and each person should be able to show Christlike love. Some fella I
know once wrote something which had been forgotten by me and then was
randomly rediscovered about two weeks ago. It is as follows:
After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and
chaining a soul. You learn love does not mean protection and company does
not mean security. You begin to learn kisses are not promises and presents
are not contracts. You learn to build your roads on today because tomorrows
ground is to uncertain for plans and futures have a way of falling down in
mid-flight.
Point being, these things we attach emotion to in earthly relationships are
ridiculous. God created our hearts and souls to be rather fragile which is
why they need so much protection. There are fine lines in relationships
where our heart and soul go places unintentionally because they are so
weak. God loves us with out restriction or hesitation. We can read into
actions of sinful man as action of Gods love but at the end of the day Gods
will is always going to happen. When you have committed your life to God,
be committed. If you are continually seeking relationships or anything
other than the face of our Father, then you are going to miss out on a
deeper relationship with Him. If you commit to Him and follow His plan,
then if He has planned for you to be married it will happen. Once you have
committed your life to Christ, stop seeking any other relationships other
than the one with Him because He will guide you in all aspects of life and
show you where to focus your heart and abilities.
As He leads me,
Jason
