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We’re on the same team. But people talk to her more than me.

It’s not a competition. But I wish I had Seth Barnes’ job and influence.

I love my blog. But his blog was featured and mine wasn’t.

The ‘bolded’ is what I say out loud. The ‘underlined’ is what I sometimes think in my head.

I, often, say to myself “Jamal, why do you always compare yourself to others?”

I wish I could say it doesn’t matter.

But truth is, I do compare. Constantly. 

I thought it was only me, hence, the reason I was having those conversations in my head but recently I had a conversation with a teammate and it turns out we’re all battling it.
 
How much do I weigh? I want to look more like the girl in the magazine.
She is so fashionable. Why can’t I be more fashion-forward?
His Abs are so ripped. Why doesn’t my stomach look like that?
Her makeup is phenomenal. She is so beautiful. I want to look like that.

Envy, jealousy, comparison. You name it, we’re fighting it.


In 2 Corinthians 10:12, it says: We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves amongst themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.

I understand if it’s difficult to read and ‘put into practice’ in the next minute. I’m the same way.

I’m nowhere close to where I wanna be but by God’s grace, I’m gaining some traction. 

I’m not an expert by any means but I want to share with you something that has helped me in beating down comparison. 

But I must first warn you…very few people have the courage to actually do it. 

But it works. I guarantee it!!

You can kill envy and comparison in this one step: Publicly celebrate and champion what you envy!

I know it sounds so simple but it’s more difficult than it appears. 

For instance, let’s say you’re constantly comparing your beauty to ‘her’ beauty, the best thing you can do to kill that comparison is celebrate ‘her’ beauty…publicly!

Tell her every chance you get that she is beautiful.

Every time you feel envy, jealousy and comparison creep up, celebrate it.

It will seem unnatural it first, I understand. But again, I promise it works. 

Text the guy sitting in the office you’re supposed to be sitting in that he’s doing a great job.
Write a note to say “your leadership within our Bible study is phenomenal.”
Although you’re single, tell that couple what you appreciate about their relationship.


Email the Pastor of the bigger church to tell him you’re thrilled he’s doing great work.
High five your buddy for getting an ‘A’ even though he didn’t study for the test that kicked your butt.
Leave a kind comment on the blog you wish was yours.
Promote that other worship leaders music.

Publicly celebrate your object of envy with those you envy and others. 

Do it.

Then do it again. 

And again. 

And again. 

And you’ll slowly see your envy die. 

You’ll become a kinder person. A more loving person. And you’ll be a lot happier too. 

I know we all struggle with comparison, envy and jealousy.

Question is, do you have the courage to fight your envy? 

If so, why don’t you take a baby step by admitting it in the comments section today?

What or who do you need to celebrate in order to kill envy, jealousy and comparison in your life?

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