Susie Q: Are you peeing silently on purpose?
Jamal: (mad) Why are you listening to me go to the bathroom? Wow, you are crazier than I thought.
Susie Q: I wasnt listening. I just walked by the door and happen to heara trickle. I dont know.
*All names (except for mine) have been altered to protect the identity of the involved parties*
Funny? Immature? Random? Strange? Call it what you want but I ain’t laughing because it was true.
I obviously had a problem but I refused to see a doctor.
I guess I was scared, especially after WebMD told me it could be anything from constipation to diabetes.
Diabetes!? That cant be possible.
I’m not calling my doctor or seeing a specialist because quite frankly it’s a lot easier to cover my ears with a pillow than it is to face current reality.
You know I think that is one of the most dangerous propensities of the human heart.
Even though we know better, we love to ignore our current reality because its easier that way.
* It’s easier to just keep dating that guy who goes to church instead of admitting to yourself – what you really know deep down – that he doesn’t love Jesus.
* It’s easier to ignore the debt you’re amassing than it is to admit that you REALLY cant afford that next BEST thing.
* It’s easier to pretend everything will be okay than it is to come to grips with the fact that your unhealthy lifestyle will likely end in some really bad physical problems soon.
* It’s easier for a college student to not think about the next 30 years he’ll spend repaying the thousands of dollars hell owe for classes he’s skipping.
* It’s easier to keep messing around with your boyfriend because you ‘love each other’ than it is to talk to him about the empty feeling/guilt you have just 30 minutes after you had ‘fun’.
* It’s easier to smile on Sunday morning than it is to scream ‘I have doubts.’
* It’s easier to call your sin a mistake than it is to call it an addiction.
* It’s easier to work longer hours than admit you need marital counseling because your marriage is slowly crumbling.
I hope I didnt step on your toes because those examples werent meant for you, but if the shoe fits…well…
I could go on and on with examples but I don’t need to do I?
No, I don’t. Because the moment you read the first example, you knew what that thing was that youve been hiding from. You know the current reality that you’re dodging.
I know I’m not going to talk you out of this one. But it’s okay. I don’t want to talk you out of it.
I want your kids to talk you out of it. I want your family and friends to talk you out of it.
I want the people and the things that matter most to you to talk you out of denial.
Because, at the end of the day, those are the people that will suffer the consequences of our fear to face reality. Contrary to what we like to tell ourselves, our actions (or lack thereof) always affect others.
* Your kids will suffer because you hated being single and took a short cut.
* Your addiction will eventually catch up to you.
* You won’t be able to go or ‘give’ because you ‘blindly’ amassed stupid debt.
* And when you’re hospitalized for having a heart attack caused by unhealthy living, guess who will be crying?
Or in my specific case, guess who will eventually have to deal with the fact that I didn’t want to deal with my peeing problem? My family. My future wife. My future kids. And everyone thats close to me.
So I did it.
Scared out of my mind and fearing the worst, I went to see the doctor. I didn’t hold back. Spilled my guts and told him EVERYTHING including other symptoms like my twitching eye lid. He assured me that didnt have anything to do with my peeing problem.
Then I peed in a cup. Diabetes or not, I wasn’t leaving until I knew what my current reality was (health-wise).
It wasnt easy but there was too much at stake to live in denial.
I want us all to pee in cups or in other words, face reality.
Will you please face your current reality financially? Spiritually? Emotionally? Physically?
Will you have that difficult conversation? Make that challenging visit? Initiate the uncomfortable confession?
I know its hard but its only going to get harder. The longer you wait, the heavier the consequences.
And like everything else, it will come out eventually.
But remember this…THERES GRACE.
Here’s praying and hoping that we would be a generation that faces our fear and pees in cups.
Why do you think it’s hard for us to face current reality? Other thoughts?
Everyone’s got a current reality they have a hard time facing, what’s yours?
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