What do you do when your husband says “I don’t love you anymore.”
I’m single so I can’t quite answer that question.
You can check out the following New York Times article that talks about that specific situation.
New York Times article: Modern Love: Those aren’t fighting words, Dear
It will be a good read for any of us regardless of whether this situations has happened or not. To sum it up, the husband asks for a divorce because he claimed that he doesn’t love his wife anymore- when the issue was really about his failure in his new endeavors-that his role as the breadwinner was going downhill and he wanted to escape. Because of his current failure, he blamed it on their marriage. (Don’t worry, the wife doesn’t give in to his whims and it works out. Yay for happy endings!)
Anyways, sometimes I get moody and throw a tantrum- yes, an adult tantrum and I don’t even notice it. I say things i don’t really mean, which hurt people. I act in a way that is much meaner than what is deserved (of course, I should’ve love in the first place). I get snappy and impatient with those closest to me or to a stranger that slightly offends me. They didn’t know why I was so pissed off at all these little things. I didn’t even know why i was getting mad at such minute things. I snapped out of it and realized it was really an issue that was completely unrelated, an issue of pride or really about some pain I experienced elsewhere- but i just didn’t know how to deal with it.
Ok. let me get a bit nerdy. I promise this will all make sense. In terms of how static electricity works, it’s when two particles with similar charges get next to each other and repel one another- which is why on a bad staticy hair day- your hair flies away from each other. The similar charges repel one another. When you touch something of a different charge, the electron jumps off of you creating the “static shock”. In the same way, when your pain you have builds up, it’s like you are accumulating all these similar charges waiting to be unleashed. When you come in contact with others, you may unintentionally release that pain, they feel the shock you have been building up.
The two things to remember are
#1. Watch yourself in what you say to others or how you act towards others- watch your intentions because you don’t want your pain, pride, or unresolved issues to hurt others when it’s really not about them.
#2. Don’t take it personally when you become “shocked” by other’s pain because, it’s really not about you.
*Thanks to Jinju for sharing the article.
